Dear Steve & Shirley,
I'm a 41-year-old professional African-American man in Atlanta that has been divorced for ten years and I have a ten-year-old son that I love dearly. We were married for four years and had our son in the fifth year, which is the same year that we got divorced. My ex-wife and I are cool and we do a good job of co-parenting. But this is not what this letter is about.
Ever since my divorce I have dated a lot of women, some serious, most not. I have dated female business executives, doctors, news anchors etc; great women that any man would be lucky to have, but I continuously feel unfulfilled in these relationships. It is also concerning to me that I don't get those butterfly feelings of love anymore. I read your book and several others about relationships to try to discover what I'm missing, but I can't seem to find the answer. Most of my male friends are divorced and the ones that are married say that if they did get divorced then they would not get married again. I'm beginning to think that marriage is not worth it.
Here is my question. Why should I get married? Money? I've been earning six figures for over a decade. Companionship? I have five quality women that I can call right now! Stability? I have a house and two cars and several savings accounts. Domestic help? I cook better than most women and I keep my house clean. A mom for my son? My son's mom is a good mom and I'm very involved in his life as well. Long-term partnership? In today's world, most marriages end in divorce, so that is not guaranteed.
I'm trying to see if marriage is worth it. What is the up-side of marrying again? It seems more and more like a financial, emotional and constrictive liability to me versus an asset.
Signed – Is it worth it?
Marriage is not meant for everyone and it is no longer a taboo to be single. If you are happy being single, then be single son!
Randi
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Albany, GA - WMRZ 98.1 FM
Marriage is not mandatory. However, there comes a time in everyone's life when they will start to crave for a deeper connection with someone. I think you are well on your way. Your heart is crying out for something more. That is why you are writing this Strawberry Letter because your heart is feeling a void. With all of your success and women galore, you are still lonely because your life is without real love. You don't get those butterfly feelings with your current women because maybe they are not the one. Maybe they see only your success and not the real man within. Try looking outside the boardroom. People tend to get real phony when they have a little something, something. Seek out the lady with a zest for life and the appreciation of little things. Having money is nice, but sometimes it hinders a person from enjoying life's simple pleasures and that is LOVE, not marriage, but real love ... the butterfly feelings that you seek.
Susan
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Albany, GA - WMRZ 98.1 FM
Just enjoy your life as it is. Sounds like things are going well for you. If you happen to run into someone who you want to marry, then that's icing on the cake. In the meantime, if you have the time, there are plenty of fatherless boys who need a mentor and other community needs that you could get involved in which could contribute to your quality of life. Work on your spirituality as well. Good luck and God bless.
Annie Mae
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Atlanta, GA - MAJIC 107.5 FM
What is our society coming to when one would ask, is marriage worth it. The problem is the things these women are giving you should only happen in a marriage ... sex, commitment, family etc. You get out of marriage what you put in it. It is not supposed to be the first sign of a problem in the marriage, you head to divorce court instead of using the marriage to help you become a better person. Marriage should be desirable, honorable, exclusive, good, fulfilling and it also helps you live longer. When you finally find the right lady, you will truly understand the meaning of marriage again as you will not want her with anyone but you.
CL
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Atlanta, GA - MAJIC 107.5 FM
Wow, I am in Atlanta and this sounds just like my ex-boyfriend. I usually don't respond to these letters but just way too many similarities. Listen. If you don't give love fully, you won't get a life that's full of love. If you provide love to multiple women; you're cheating yourself and the women you're involved with and the chance at love. You are a PLAYER! Grow-up and get a life.
Shuan
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Atlanta, GA - MAJIC 107.5 FM
Thank you so much Steve for addressing today's letter setting that man straight. So many men play games here in Atlanta. I was born and raised here and the older I get, the more I understand. Because the woman to man ratio is so high in Atlanta, men feel as if they are prized possessions. This man obviously has many issues he was trying to cover up. Thank you for exposing his childless tactics. I am seriously contemplating moving to another state because games like this are commonplace.
Mikayla
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Atlanta, GA - MAJIC 107.5 FM
If there is no one in his life that is a serious relationship for him then why is he considering whether marriage is worth it or not. this letter makes no sense in that all he did in my opinion was find a way to describe what he has and what he's worth in material terms. He talks as if he's most women's ideal man but doesn't see marriage in his future. that's fine, but why does he need Steve's or Shirley's advice on that. I could possibly see if he was in serious committed relationship and wanted to know the answer to this question but he's not. he should remain single unless of course he still has some unresolved feelings for the ex-wife that he hasn't faced yet.
Brenda
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Augusta, GA - WPRW-FM 107.7
Really?! I hate that I'm at work and can't listen to the radio cause Steve I know you are about to eat him up. Really!!! if he has all this going on for him self why is he writing such a crazy letter and why would anything be missing from his life. If he talks about his self to women the way he talk about him self in this letter, I can see what is wrong no women wants him. I think he wants to get married but, he having a hard time holding on to a women long enough to marry. To me what women would not want a man who has his self together as far as money, his own home, and two cars. Most women look for a man who has his self together. Or is he not being honest about all he has in his life and these are things he wants to get a woman. Steve please talk to this fool.
Valeire
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Camden, AR - KMGC 104.5 FM
Whew!!! Steve gave this guy the business. I have to agree with him though. It sounds to me like this guy should grow up.
Davida
41
Charleston, SC - WXST 99.7 FM
You sound like a womanizing fool. In the past two weeks I have found that men have taken on the role of a woman in relationships. Stop whining and move on. If you need counseling, get help. Stop playing and grow up. This letter angers me so much I can't even type a decent response.
wanda
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Charlotte, NC - WBAV 101.9 FM
Sweetness, get marriage out of your mind FIRST try and find a woman for you and maybe be capable for your son try her out and see what comes of it you are short changing yourself and don't even know it go to E-HARMONY they help me find that right guy and I am STILL IN LOVE after 15 years. Try it.
thomas mcintosh
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Charlotte, NC - WBAV 101.9 FM
I have never been married myself and I understand your pain. I myself think you should try a different race or another country. It worked well for me. If you don't think so "ask Micheal Jordan".
Caroline
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Charlotte, NC - WBAV 101.9 FM
Good Morning all. Sir you are 41 and all is well NOW. But what you have not thought about is that in 9 years you will be 50, and 10 years after that you will be 60. I assume your health is good now. Keep wining and dining, and messing around with the five ladies. Write back in nine years when you start graying, going bald, your plumbing stops working and you start having health issues and see how many of those five women want to be bothered. YOU ARE FULL OF YOU. LOL!
wrtrchk
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Charlotte, NC - WBAV 101.9 FM
If you need someone to convince you that marriage is good or marriage is "worth it," than perhaps you are better off alone. If you're okay with going places alone or with friends, coming home to an empty house and living for you and you alone, don't remarry and don't date. Many women around your age are dating with a purpose and you don't seem to be doing that. DO NOT waste your time or theirs. Continue to provide for your son and just be happy for your ex-wife when she remarries.
Bridgette
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Chicago, IL - WVAZ 102.7 FM
The butterfly need to get it together. He went over every zodiac sign on the chart but Sagittarius. He should retire and let sis Odell or oatmeal read of the paper.
Since he is slacking.
Mac
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Chicago, IL - WVAZ 102.7 FM
It seems that the problem is you. If you cut out all of those women that you are messing with all of those feelings of love would come back to you. I am a African-American male in the same financial position that you are and black women would prefer to have you all to their self but would settle for a peace of you. But make no mistake that is all that you are, is a piece. Don't get it twisted. You had a good wife and you didn't want marriage. I noticed your words you are divorced which means that more than likely your wife divorced you. You didn't know what you wanted then and you don't now. My advice to you is to grow up! Everything you are doing is kid stuff and it gets old.
Aint got time for dat
50
Chicago, IL - WVAZ 102.7 FM
If you have to ask that question, then you should stay single. If it is not worth it to you, don't waste anyone's time.
LaPhonso Robinson
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Chicago, IL - WVAZ 102.7 FM
Steve,
This guy only wrote in to try and discredit you and all those who offer help to the hurting and blow his own horn. That's why he mentioned reading your book and the books of others and said he didn't find help in them. He has no desire to be helped. He wanted 115 minutes of fame on a national stage to brag about who he is. Obviously, he's not getting the attention that he claims he is, or he wouldn't have the need to seek attention the way he is. He didn't realize that you would see straight through him.
cj
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Columbia, SC - WWDM 101.3 FM
Not once did this brother mentioned God commit to God first and then he have settled the way he think god resolves all issues all his focus is on the materialistic side his of his life connect to the laws of the most high.
Edy Holmes
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Dallas, TX - KRNB 105.7 FM
I thought only women felt like that!
2 Timothy 3:1-5 explains why it is difficult
To get what one needs from a relationship.
Even a very giving person will not find joy when dealing with the kinds of people mentioned in that scripture. Both needed to be givers, forgive and have respect for God and each other.
t
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Fayetteville, NC - WMGU 106.9 FM
You seem to be so assured of yourself and have no reason to rely on anyone else opinion or advice. Other then sharing moments in your life and some accomplishments you have not scratched the surface of your true question. Why are you writting this letter? No one never said you had to get married to feel complete or be happy. But no man is an island and he that findeth a wife find a good thing. But if you choose to be alone then that is also just as beneficial. Marriage is for those who truly want to be with one person and not stand in judgement or determine what that person should be. Though it is often refered to as the better half of someone, I beg to differ. Marriage is not half of anything and a person can not make you whole.. Most people want a feeling or sensation to prove they are in love or have choosen the right one. No one almost ever appreciate the one they have. You obviously hold yourself in high regards and feel that you only date women of a certain caliber to continue your feeling of accomplishment. But yet you are alone and lonely and seeking answers in a most unlikely place. The reason sir for you not to marry is because you would not love a woman for what and who she truly is. You love yourself to much to ever love anyone else and your love is based on things that can give no return. If you were in a different place in your life and thought process I would tell you the reason for you to marry is because when you grow old and your son is gone on with his life and you need someone to care for you not for what you were but what you are, if that person loves you they will do that and be there for you. Marriage is not for now as much as it is for later, all journeys must end and if you are loved at the end of yours you are blessed. Good luck.
Nedra NC
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Fayetteville, NC - WMGU 106.9 FM
The first comment I read scared me. It was from a woman and she said she hopes the maker will send her a man. She's gonna wait forever because she's not looking. God gave us everything we need but we have to use it. This man is hoping for the right woman that's not how it works. You do your thing and allow yourself to feel.
Julia
50
Fayetteville, NC - WMGU 106.9 FM
Steve!!! You hit that letter with nothing but honesty. Thank you for letting that bonehead know what the real truth is!!!
Nicole
38
FM Detroit, MI - WMXD 92.3
Sounds to me as if he is looking for someone to give him the green light to seek a relationship with a man since he can't seem to find a woman to fulfill him. If a woman can't give him butterflies anymore, maybe it's because a man has. IJS
China
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Killeen, TX - KIIZ 92.3 FM
I Believe if You Put your Trust in a "Higher Power" and lean not on your understanding, You will be able to Freely Open Up to another Woman. And if you are still in Love with your Ex Wife, why don't you try to sit down and work things out with her? Or did you do something to her that ran her off For Good. A Man making a six Digit Income and has a lot going for himself? Wow, I just can't imagine why a woman with a man as Secure as you would agree to a Divorce. Did You Cheat on Her? Or did you let your "Arrogance and Pride" get the best of you. You say you look better than most women, hmmmm, that makes me to believe that you are full of yourself and Wifey left because she didn't want to put up with your B.S. anymore. Just learn a lesson from that, and utilize it toward your next relationship.
Cheryl
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Lake Charles, LA - KJMH 107.5 FM
Good Morning Steve and morning show staff.
I did not hear this gentleman say ANYTHING about God in his Life. He needs to read HIS BOOK and have a little talk with Jesus to know what Life is really about. He is empty with a whole lot of material things. HE can be successful in business and Miserable without a significant other to make a happy home. Love can't be bought. It is Priceless. We have already been paid for by God. He is a Man that needs a WoMan. But First he has to Let his Father raise him up to be a REAL Man. Until them it will always be HiSTORY. Many Blessings You All!
D.Washington
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Laurel, MS - WZLD 106.3 FM
This is more of a wondering moment for me. What grown "REAL" man actually reads "Think Like A Man" for relationship guidance. Something about this guy isn't all together. Sounds to me like he may have somewhere lost a "love" for women period. Doesn't sound manly to me at all. SMH.
Eva
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Listen Online
First of all marriage is worth it because it was arranged by our creator.it appears to me you are into the things you mentioned having great material wealth and being successful and dating prestigious women that's not important you think mans thoughts you need to think Gods thoughts and this is presented to us through His word the bible. What you need to look for is a capable wife someone whose values is far more than that of corals. Charm may be false and prettiness may be vain,but the woman that fears God is the one that procures praise for herself so this is the kind of woman that will stick by you no matter what through trials and tribulations, so this is the type of woman that you should seek, but start by examining yourself first and then pray for a pure heart and you will find success and love and happiness.
Nicole
27
Listen Online
Five quality women??? Who will do whatever you want them and need them to do? Woa I'm speechless on this one. Sir, I'm not a man I will not judge you, I haven't been through what you went through so again i will not judge you all I will is to suggest you some spirituality. Go to church, read the Bible, do volunteer. It will help you to find yourself. Good luck.
daha
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Listen Online
You mention so much stuff but no mention of God so you really have nothing. The reason you don't understand marriage is you don't understand his instruction. Unless you are a Eunuch marriage is what God wants for us. I bet If I spoke to your ex wife, she would say you are self centered and cocky. That's probably why you are divorced. Its not good gloat because it could easily be taken away. Remember the devil give gifts also. Thats his way of you but they dnt last. I dnt know why but this letter made me upset. Maybe because I understand God's marriage plan and not mans. Good luck.
Evelyn
49
Listen Online
Good morning, morning everyone love you I'm in OKC, Oklahoma listen to you on iheart radio on my way to class therapeutic massage. God bless you. Wish I could have seen you live Mr. Harvey at least there are DVDs.
Mara
47
Listen Online
You've answered your own question, haven't you, Mr. Has-It-All? Now that you've fathered a child in wedlock, it would appear there is but little marriage can offer you. We women are responsible for much of that, given how easily most of us give ourselves away. Here's hoping you don't look back on your choice with chagrin when you are an old man.
bjh
49
Listen Online
Dude, from the way you think and how you're treating the women you have been dating, WHY are you looking to get married again? Marriage is about being with someone you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. One on one in a loving relationship that is built around trust and respect -- for both partners. It's a partnership and will be able to stand the test of times, ups and downs and everything in between. If you can call that many different women quality women to be with for a good time, that's not a good thing REALLY. Do these women all know about the EACH other -- PLAYER? It sounds like you already have the RIGHT person to be married to -- YOU!!!
WSC
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New Orleans, LA - WQUE 93.3 FM
Hi, Mr. Is It Worth It: Look like you've answer your own question. Seems like you have it all, already! The six figure job for 10 years, the cars, saving accounts, the house and five women you can call at any given time. So why would you get married. It seem like you really don't want a wife. If you had one you would go out and get you cake too. Sound like you want it all, your cake and eat it too.. And yes I'm married 28 years and its still going strong. Good Luck with you and your 5 women that you can call any time. Because it sounds like that's what you really want!!
M.BROWN
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New York, NY - WBLS 107.5 FM
First of all, SHE IS NOT YOUR GIRL. I was gonna say she is a trick, but she's not, YOU ARE. Tell this loose booty to KICK ROCKS! She has NO morals, no self-respect, nor any home training. No man wants a woman like this, unless he is the same exact way, but got played FIRST! Keep it moving bro, you're out of your league with this one. Something stinks about this chic! Throw that fish back.
YOLANDA
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New York, NY - WBLS 107.5 FM
I do believe its worth it. I've been married for 26 years and I wouldn't trade it for the world. I love my husband dearly and I can honestly say he loves me too but marriage takes work. You mentioned the emotional, physical and financial qualities but I didn't see any spiritual needs. Maybe that's the problem. Without Him, the other things are irrelevant.
Cynthia
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New York, NY - WBLS 107.5 FM
It sounds like to me your replacing things and meaningless relationships in the place of love. You can't get serious about anyone rt now because you THINK u already have it all! I don't even know what your talking about marriage for. You seem arrogant but in actuality you're ignorant! Your money "MAY" be all you'll end up with because youth doesn't last forever! You'll just be old and ugly with money! I'm a nurse and have seen this far too many times! You can't even imagine!
Cynthia
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New York, NY - WBLS 107.5 FM
It sounds like to me your replacing things and meaningless relationships in the place of love. You can't get serious about anyone rt now because you THINK u already have it all! I don't even know what your talking about marriage for. You seem arrogant but in actuality you're ignorant! Your money "MAY" be all you'll end up with because youth doesn't last forever! You'll just be old and ugly with money! I'm a nurse and have seen this far too many times! You can't even imagine!
Cynthia
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New York, NY - WBLS 107.5 FM
By the way, if any of these women had any quality at all they wouldn't be dating you! Sounds like the only quality they have is low self esteem, if you consider that a quality. I that you're confusing quantity with quality.
yetta
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New York, NY - WBLS 107.5 FM
Marriage is worth it if you want to be married.Sounds to me like you don't so why do it. You have it all. Except for love I didn't read anything about wanting love just material things. So if your happy being single then do just that.
Just be mindful not to play with a woman's heart.
I'm married for 10 years and we have had out rough spots but our love is unconditional. We have weathered our storms and have come out on top. And I love him more today than I did when we first married so that is a heck-a lot. Maybe you just haven't found the right one yet to change your mind. See me I want somebody I can grow old with and he found me. hate to be old and lonely with no love at all. Yeah, money is nice but love is the greatest of all.
Doug
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New York, NY - WBLS 107.5 FM
I am really interested in Steve's perspective. I am in a similar situation, and ready to just go overseas, because I have definitely given up on American/Western women. Most men want to meet Ms. Right, but it seems like women think only women are miserable in the search for a good partner. MEN HAVE BECOME JUST AS FED UP!
Doug
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New York, NY - WBLS 107.5 FM
By-the-way, I understand having multiple women in the wings. Since a man rarely meets one woman that meets the 80/20 rule, it is better to have multiple women that add up to 80 percent.
Bruce
50
Norfolk, VA - WVKL 95.7 FM
Sounds like you're rolling pretty good being solo. Stop looking for marriage and enjoy those five women you have. If you're happy being a single parent with your ex, stay single. Good luck.
Roland VA
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Norfolk, VA - WVKL 95.7 FM
Marriage wasn't a one man, one woman setup as we do it now for those who want to get biblical. Men had as many as they could afford. In answer to the writer's question no its not worth the hassle except when it comes to kids. Marriage gives children a connection to the most important physical and mental aspect of life a family string. It shows kids that they are part of something bigger and stronger then anything else they venture into. And yes you can be part of a family without being married, but that would be more of the slave mentality. Remember black families were most often separated by owners so marriage and keeping a family strong keeps the dreams of all those slaves that bore the hurt of losing their children real.
Dee Marshall
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Norfolk, VA - WVKL 95.7 FM
The man is GAY. Obviously, women can't fulfill his needs, so.
Rambone
50
Philadelphia, PA - WDAS 105.3 FM
Steve I'm with you. Why in the heck did you get married the first time player because I'm also divorced and the reason I got divorced the first time was because of my in-fidelity believe I used to be a player as well and I've had some of the baddest women as well from California to Texas to Chicago to Memphis I'm international or should I say use to be. Stop playing turn in your players card and grow up player. It comes a point when a man got to grow up.
Tangie
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Philadelphia, PA - WDAS 105.3 FM
Straight to the point ... what grown man write a radio station to brag on what he got? Dude is a clown and he only wrote this letter to feed his own ego because he has low self esteem and just like his wife and these imaginary five women he's so called dating don't and won't give him the time of day because he arrogant, stuck on himself and probably constantly talk about himself and what he got. Dude go buy a clue and a blow-up doll because ain't nobody trying to hear all that.
Janae
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Philadelphia, PA - WDAS 105.3 FM
First of all, if you can call up five quality women that you have "in stock" then why are you even writing this letter, duhhhh!!! Seems like to me that you probably do a lot of bragging to these women (which disgust them) that's why you can't commit to any of them. Why are you even divorced (right after you had a baby) you left that part out. Secondly you never added why you're not consistently dating ONE WOMAN, what are her qualities. Take a look at yourself and reread this letter - you'll see what's missing and what's not making sense.
April
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San Francisco, CA - KBLX- 102.9 FM
That's deep and sad at the same time. I'm 37 years old and have been single for over 10 years. I can say that I've felt that way, but I still have hope that God will send my life partner to me. With no questions asked and no doubt in my heart that this is it. My brother keep your heart open and your mind at peace. God will give you exactly what you need, when you need it. Just keep living and doing you. Good luck my brother. Keep the faith no matter what, believe me your feeling will change, when the time is right.
kay
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Savannah, GA - WQBT 94.1 FM
Good morning. I know exactly what is YOUR problem. There are three things going on with you. FIRST you didn't mention GOD, I promise you that if you don't know him, you need to learn about him. HE IS THE ANSWER. He will show you the way as long as you BELIEVE in him. It may take time so you will have to have patience. SECOND you are stuck on yourself. Money can't buy you love and death. When it comes down to it, you can be broke and still get love and death.So leave the money and houses and cars out of it. You are focusing too too too much energy on your 6 figures and materialistic items. I am proud of you and mentioning that you are a BLACK man earning six figures has the tone that not too many black men are making that kind of money. You don't know that. There are people who pick up trash who are millionaires but they don't broadcast it. So if you would leave material things out and stop being stuck on yourself, you could with GOD's help find what you are seeking. As you are living with all that you have it is apparent that money can't buy you love or you would have bought a wife. Stop talking about what you have and focus on you, the person. You brag on what you have but you haven't bragged on what type of man you are. You stuck on yourself too much. Look in the mirror and find yourself. Find the man that is hiding inside of you and you will become a better person. THIRD, you talk about five women. What kind of example are you setting for your child. See this is where PARENTS don't practice what they say or should be doing. If you teach your son how to treat women but you have five that you can call, what type of example are you setting. You can't find who you want because you can't let the game go because the attention is good to you. You love attention and those crazy women (who give us good women a bad name) are running at your beckoning call because they want your money. You are their pay day because this is what some women have downgraded themselves to be in order for fun and a few dollars. Don't you know that some women will be satisfied with you buying them cigarettes or a hamburger. You should know better because you are past 40 years old. You are going to keep on, you will have another child and then comes child support. Grow up little old professional with education and no common sense. Take care of your son and change you ways when it comes to money, materials and women and you will see better results with the help from GOD. Look at yourself; you are the only common denominator in all of the situations. So the problem lies WITHIN you. Step back and look at yourself. Good Luck!!!
Maxie
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St. Louis, MO - KMJM 100.3 FM
He's got five women? I hope this player is using a condom! Because he is emotionally lazy.
Van
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Tallahassee, FL - WWLD 102.3 FM
My brother: You have not found yourself yet. Age and professional success does not necessarily translate to true self-awareness. Take a close and honest look at yourself. Each of us is destined for a certain path in life and when we are not on that path, thing seem confusing and frustrating. Even with your success, you may not be on your true path. You have to be in sync with yourself before anything or anyone else will truly fit into your life. And when that happens, you won't have any questions about relationships or marriage.
Jazz
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Washington DC - WHUR 96.3 FM
I would say get married when you find someone who loves you as much as you love yourself and whom you love as much as you love yourself, and until you find that person just keep loving yourself.
Keisha
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Washington DC - WHUR 96.3 FM
You shouldn't get married until you know how to be with one woman. Really, but are you a man of quality, all you talk about is your quantity (house, cars, and accounts) and you describe quality by the job title. How about this, learn to love yourself and that feeling you are looking for you will find was in you all the time. Also let these women know that you they are options not priorities you always got four others you could call.
Alecia
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Washington DC - WHUR 96.3 FM
I've been married and divorced, twice. I'm with you.
Richard
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Washington DC - WHUR 96.3 FM
Found my counseling background and knowledge it appears that you are questioning love with a mixture of sexuality. My first words of advice is to separate the two. Stop looking for love in sexual relationships. Everyone isn't meant to be married. You live in an area with a lot of questionable males which may be adding to you questioning your sexuality. If you find that you are more able to be friends with females, then nurture those relationships if you do find truth and love with the same gender again be honest and true with that, just don't add sex to the equation until you figure out who you are. All failed relationships take two people both play a role, you need to define yours.
Patrice
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Washington DC - WHUR 96.3 FM
This sounds like this man might be gay to me; how can he be so so confused about being married to at least one of the five woman, that may be a quality women. One of them has to be worth marrying. To me only gay men will be confused about this because he's trying to figure out if he should come out or if he should be married to a woman. Steve you have always said; men know when they have the one, so what is the problem?
Anthony
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Washington DC - WHUR 96.3 FM
I understand exactly what the brother is saying. I am happily married, but enjoyed life a lot more when I was single. I have been married three years, and the thing that every friend I know happened, no action in the intimacy department. I make money, cook clean and treat her like she deserves to be treated. She let's me know how much she loves me, but the love making is every now and again. I don't see my life without her, but I often remember my single days when I didn't have those complaints. I was raised to not let problems linger. I understand how marriages end behind infidelity. The old saying is true, what you won't do someone else will! I can't say I wouldn't do it ever again, because who wants to be the old player in the club living for the moment. Sex ain't everything, but it makes relationships a little easier!
GODS DIVINE
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Washington DC - WHUR 96.3 FM
I read your letter and it sounds like to me you want to be single. Most marriage's end in divorce for the wrong reason's people can be very selfish when it comes to relationships. However, it's not about the material things you don't sound happy to me with yourself. It's great to have the house, car, money, etc. but you're alone. If you're satisfied with that then, ok!
Lawrence
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Washington DC - WHUR 96.3 FM
Besides the guy having some player issues, it still remains a valid question. Why? I have my reasons but I don't think that Steve really answered the question as to why get married again for the others out here that ask that same question.
Renee
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Washington DC - WHUR 96.3 FM
Give your entire heart and life to CHRIST. NOW. Your priorities are ALL wrong with what REALLY matters in life. Did you ever think who/what you would be if, you should ever happen to lose your material possessions that seem to mean so much now?
Don't let real life pass you by - get with the REAL life brother. IT IS SO GOOD! You just don't know what you're missing :-)
Put down your pumped up notions that what you have makes you a man, and learn what really makes you a man and that is faith in God, commitment to Christ, Love, LOYALTY, togetherness, FAMILY (husband AND wife and child), COMMITMENT (working it out). DOING "YOU" ain't going to get you any farther than you already are. Learn how to "do" somebody else for a chance and you will find the rewards that come from doing that are PRICELESS! God bless you and your son.
