The Strawberry Letter 23

STRAWBERRY LETTER FOR TODAY

Date: 01/06/2009
Subject: My Flesh is Weak But My Spirit is Willing

Hey Steve & Shirley: I listen to your show every morning while getting ready for work and I gotta tell you - you and your crew are sickkkk! You have me rolling on the floor in tears laughing and I'm so into hearing your response to the letters that many times I'm late for work. Anyway, my problem is with this brother I'm seeing who I met duiring a chastening by the hand of God. I had lost my job, my transportation and met this guy on the bus on my way to work. I don't usually talk to strangers but something about him was so familiar. My spirit sensed something. We became friends and eventually lovers. He asked me to church and I went and I started a relationship with God by daily prayers and worship. To make a long story short this man seems to be hindering my spirit by trying to keep me disobedient if you know what I mean. He says he can be my friend and let me do what God wants me to do, and that doesn't mean we can't be around each or go out and be friends. However, when we do get together, we end up in bed. Steve, Shirley I don't know how to get this man out of my life. I've prayed and asked God for guidance and when I try to ignore his constant phone calls and him showing up at my door, I just feel guilty because he seems so lost without me. I just need an objective point of view as to how to handle this situation. He goes to church regularly but he doesn't have the same experience as I'm seem to be having regarding God's word about disobedience, and fornication!! Should I give him an ultimatum to marry me, which he says he wants to everyday - but doesn't have it all together financially; or should I change my phone number, avoid him and move on. He could be the one, I do love him, and we are like to kids in a sandbox when we are together. My flesh is weak but my spirit is willing. Please advise.

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Name: Faith Age: 42 Radio Station: WBLS 107.5 FM New York, NY Good morning all. Lady is there only one church where you live? If you want to worship without this man being up on you join another church. If he can't respect that you have learned better and therefore want to do better tell him under no uncertain terms it is over and he needs to give you space...stop calling and showing up on your doorstep. That's what I got from the first half of the letter...then we get down to the real issue. This man won't marry you. Are you trying to use faith and love for God to make this man commit? Go ahead and give him the ultimatum. I can give you his answer right now. Hell naw! You need to make up your mind about what it is you REALLY want here and follow the path COMPLETELY to achieve it. Stop playing games with yourself.
Name: Monica Age: 48 Radio Station: WBLS 107.5 FM New York, NY You confuse me. The same man you want to get the rid of is the same man you are contemplating marrying in. Unfortunately the church has a lot of you all shouting God's name to the top of your voice on Sunday, and Wednesday at Bible study, but fornicating and living the worldly life all other time. Fake. You are grown all you need to tell this man is your first love Jesus is not happy with the lifestyle you all are living. Seeing he is the one you have to please he will have to make a decision or leave, because you all a disobeying one of the commandments. You can not serve two Masters. I want to wish all the Best for the New Year to the regular responders who are not always condescending to the writers, those who tell it like it is without belittling. Mr Carr, Mr C, PlayahX, Brklynmon and others. You get your points across that the writer can identify with.
Name: A.N.S. Age: 41 Radio Station: WBLS 107.5 FM New York, NY I love how people start off praising the show and saying the LISTEN all the time. If you were LISTENING you would be able to make better decisions for yourself. This guys game was pretty tight but you should have known he was using the church to get in those drawers. Think about it...he had been attending church but he was willing to sleep with you (and God knows who else). Now, you start attending and taking in the word and processing it which caused his game plan to backfire. Now sleeping with him without the benefit of marriage is wrong to you. You have a right to change your mind but if that's the case stick with your decisions. "The flesh is weak"...duh!! You faith (if you really have any) should be stronger. It doesn't happen overnight (I know) but you are going to have to figure out how to prevent yourself from backsliding. I know what the bible says about pre-marital sex but it's not a perfect well and we are not perfect people. If you are a good person and this is how you have lived I don't think you are going straight to hell for it. On the other hand if marraiage is what you want and you really love this man and see yourself with a house and kids (and him correcting his financial issues) then let him know. If he doesn't feel the same then move on and that has nothing to do with church. That's SL common sense.
Name: Ms. E Age: 29 Radio Station: WBLS 107.5 FM New York, NY Please do not give this man an ultimatum to marry you. You said you guys are like two kids in a sandbox. If you decide to give him an ultimatum that is where the problems will start. You said he has financial problems. That can stir up a whole lot of problems then you will be asking yourself WTF I did that for. Also, you said he is not on the same page as you with GOD. Evidentally you're not either if you continue to fornicate constantly. Don't lie you like it LOL.
Name: bklynmom Age: 39 Radio Station: WBLS 107.5 FM New York, NY Sigh....another letter using words such as "seeing someone", or "dating someone", and then in the next breath asking why there isn't a committed relationship. Sista, how would you go from "seeing" this man that by your own description and is not on the same page with you spiritually to fast forwarding to giving him an ultimatum. That's a huge leap. You say you love him, but then throw in that he's not respecting your request to not have sex (a little hard to change the rules AFTER the fact also since you said you've ended up in bed with him). My question to you is what kind of relationship do you have with this person besides going to church and playing these games of have sex/don't have sex? Have you met his family? Have you met his friends? Do you have deep discussions on life outside of the topics of religion and sex? Do you support each other in your life's goals? What is your vision of the future (not as a couple, but for YOU?)? What is his vision of the future (same thing...as a person, not as a couple?). How does being a couple aid (or perhaps detract) in getting to those goals? For a relationship that you want to zoom ahead to marriage ultimatums, you sure threw in a lot of things you DIDN'T LIKE about him (pushing sex, not financially stable); so use that as a sign to slow down and just DATE him without thoughts of where is this going. Get to know him as a person. If you don't want to have sex because of your religious beliefs (and also until you know status of relationship), then DO THAT, and stop playing the victim that he's not listening. Maybe you need to stop thinking that this man has to be your one and only and just focus on YOU as a person. Make sure you're not making him the focus of your life. Get back to concentrating on your work and your activities outside of work (family, friends, health). By eliminating the concept that this man has to be the man you give an ultimatum too just because he got you to church and you "love" him, take the take to test the relationship and YOU. You should be a complete person without someone else. (As a sidenote, I'm SO disappointed that Playah-X won't be writing in anymore....sniffles...lol!!! Loved his breakdown addressed to the FELLAS. Wow!!!)
Name: Jackie Age: 39 Radio Station: WBLS 107.5 FM New York, NY many of us were in this situtation in one point in time.i m not judging you because we in general have weak points and the enemy always try to attack in those areas as many we do fall but doesn't give us the right license to sin. Both of you need to submit and get your lives together . What are your asking God for? First, thing you have to be specific what you want!advice, list ten things you want God to change in your life and list another ten what you want in a man.Trust in God, place it in his hands if he is the one he will make right but he is not cut off completely never jeoparize your commuion with the Lord. if you obey and abide by his word. He will grant you what you need and much more. Advice,Some churches do have single ministries or groups and they do discuss all things that we stuggle everyday. I will keep you in my prayers. God Bless take care
Name: Nieshah Age: 28 Radio Station: WGCI 107.5 FM Chicago, IL To be honest, you have to realize if you're"lusting" after the man more than you love God. Once you are honest with yourself you will have realized that you've had the answer along it's just that you don't want to deal with the answer. The devil knows exactly how to send the temptations to your doorstep. He job is to keep us of track. It's up to you to allow the devil the to be the excuse why you want to do wrong.
Name: Teresa Age: 43 Radio Station: WGCI 107.5 FM Chicago, IL I think this young lady needs to find her self-esteem because it is obvious that she doesn't have any. If she really loves him, she needs to remove herself from that situation. If he really loves her, he will respect her wishes and become the man that she wants him to be and commit to her in the Godly way-marriage. We as women have a tendency to take whatever that is "available" and not what is meant for us. We long to be in a relationship and say that we have a man, but it usually ends up being the wrong one. I can honestly say that if you hold out and trust and believe in God, He will work it out and bring your true love to you.
Name: FROM SHARICE - TALK TO PEOPLE ONE ON ONE Age: 39 Radio Station: WGCI 107.5 FM Chicago, IL STOP ACTING LIKE YOU HOLY WHEN YOU KNOW ITS WRONG SIS YOU KNOW YOU NEED TO LEAVE THAT BOY ALONE & HE AINT DOING YOU NO GOOD. AND TO THE PERSON THAT SAY OTHER PEEPS BELITTLING OTHER PEEPS, TALK TO THAT PERSON ONE ON ONE INSTEAD OF HOLLERING FROM THE SHADOWS. THESE HERE SILLY LETTERS & THIS SUPPOSED TO BE THE NEW YEAR FOR CHANGE SO WHERE THE CHANGE HALF THE PEEPS AIN'T NOBODY TRYING TO HEAR SOME BABY TALK COME ON NOW SUGAR PIE YOU JUST WIPE THEM PRETTY TEARS AND GOD GOT YOUR BACK. WHEN YOU WAS A KID & GOT IN SOME TROUBLE DID YOUR PARENTS SPEAK TO YOU SOFTLY HEY NOW BABE DONT YOU GO & DO THAT NO MORE OR DID THEY WHIP YOU!!! BCAUSE IF THEY WAS LIKE MY MOMS & POPS WE GOT US SOME WHIPPINGS & IT WAS FOR OUR OWN GOOD & THEN NEIGHBORS BEAT US & TOLD MY PARENTS!!!!! LIKE MY PASTOR SAID PEEPS SHOUT WHEN THE MESSAGE SOMETHING THEY WANT TO HEAR BUT WHEN HE TELL THE TRUTH & CALL OUT WRONG STUFF THEY DOING THEY CLAM UP & GET QUIET!!!!! SOME MONTHS AGO YOU CAME UP HERE SHOUTING BCAUSE YOUR GUY DID YOU WRONG NOW YOU TALKING ABOUT PEEPS BELITTLING SOMEBODY!!!!! CHECK BACK & READ WHAT YOU WROTE & WHAT YOUR NASTY ATTITUDE WAS ABOUT. THAT'S WHY SO MANY CHURCHES MESSED UP BCAUSE PEEPS TO SCARED TO OWN UP TO THEIR SIN & THE TRUTH CALL A SPADE A SPADE AND STOP BABYING PEEPS THAT KNOW BETTER! ANYBODY THAT SUPPOSED TO BE IN MINISTRY KNOW YOU DONT JUST HEY BABE YOU JUST KEEP ON PRAYING AND GOD WILL FIX IT HEY DARLING ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS JUST LET GO & LET GOD IT TAKES MORE THAN THAT WHEN YOU LYING TO GOD AND THEN TELLING PEOPLE YOU IN CHURCH. GOD WONT FIX NOTHING BUT HIS ANGER UPSIDE HER HEAD BCAUSE SHE KNOW BETTER. SHE WHORING AROUND & THATS WHAT IT IS SHE LYING TO GOD & THAT'S WHAT IT IS & THATS WHY SHE FEEL BAD. THERE AINT NO WAY TO SUGARCOAT NOTHING BCAUSE GOD WILL LET HER KEEP DOING WHAT SHE DOING & FIND OUT THE HARD WAY HER JEZEBEL WAYS AINT GOOD. STICK TO THE STORY & STOP ANSWERING WHAT SOMEBODY ELSE WROTE & DEAL WITH YOUR STUFF. PEEPS UP HERE GIVING GOD A BAD NAME TRYING TO GET OTHERS TO GO AGAINST GOD HOW COME YOU NOT SAYING NOTHING TO THEM THATS A PUNK MOVE TALKING TO PEEPS FROM THE SHADOWS!!!! & THIS AINT YOUR SL I DONT CARE HOW LONG YOU BEEN UP HERE.
Name: MMotown Age: 37 Radio Station: KRNB 105.7 FM Dallas, TX In the black community we as black people like to try to spiritualize everything. This lady is in her "sin" as she puts it and enjoying its pleasures and asking God to give her guidance. You say the man is lost without you. I say both are you are lost (not your salvation) and the blind is leading the blind. I say you are too weak to lead someone else. If you are so spiritual the bible that you stand on says "be careful least you are tempted and fall into sin." Come on sister! Call it for what it is! We aren't all perfect but quit cloaking your weakness behind being spiritual! You like sex, he likes sex so you two indulge in it. If you have to ask a man about marriage it will probably be short lived in the end. My point is you want advice. Keep church out of it! Just say I am a back sliden woman who likes sex and it is conflicting with my christian walk etc. Then you should talk to your pastoral staff at you church and have a woman present if you talk to a male pastor instead of asking the Steve Harvey Show. (Sorry Steve)
Name: kristin Age: 29 Radio Station: KRNB 105.7 FM Dallas, TX This is sad. The lady in this letter represents so many people, especially and unfortunately in church that are getting the whole idea of a relationship with God wrong. Christianity is a beautiful thing and life enriching, not an excuse for making bad decisions and blaming spirituality for flawed character. Christianity really encourages responsibility and sound thinking. The lady is using common church cliches as an excuse for not taking charge of her life. Here is a simple breakdown of what she is really saying: Hindering my spirit=flawed character Chastening by the Lord's hand=didn't pay bills on time and lost car and house My flesh is weak=using excuses for lack of discipline Lets not mispresent God any more that we already have people. This saddens me deeply. Take charge! Bad decisions made even by spiritual people still reap bad results. There is no magic that comes with serving God.Get it right!
Name: Layla Age: 29 Radio Station: KRNB 105.7 FM Dallas, TX You do not have to ask mankind what you are supposed to do when God already tells us all in the B-I-B-L-E how we are supposed to live.What can man tell you when God already told you about fornication, lust, sin,and living a hypocritical life? Do you want to be pacified or told the truth? The truth is you never lived a chaste life or he would not have been able to fool you that easily.If you are all up in the church then you should know better than a sinner when a wolf comes your way.This is what sickens me about church folk. All of the Christians are staying home and all of the heathens done took over the church and are doing all kinds of mess and then say the old famous "DONT JUDGE ME" CRAP.You know you like fornicating so until you go to God that is what your going to keep doing.So, get out of the church and stop playing with God until you really want him in your life. It is better to have not known him than to know him and continue on in sin.The man you mess with is not the problem because he is being himself all the way and your being a fornicator one second and Holy the next "lukewarm" If your as crazy about God as you claim he will give you the strength to walk away.
Name: Mr. C Age: 36 Radio Station: WHUR 96.3 FM Washington DC Good morning family! If it is not the nightclub, it is the church. Young lady, since you want to bring up God, don't you think GOD brought that man into your life to "test" you. God wanted to see how much you REALLY love him. God can see right through you (and so can we). You met a man on the bus and he asked you to church and you STARTED a relationship with God. So, basically, you was "born AGAIN" at this man's church; however, he wants to get your cookie every other night (fornication). I don't see what the problem is. YOU know that is wrong, thats why you wrote today's letter. Dang, why didnt I think of that. The CHURCH playa move. Invite a woman to Church, say "Halleluhah" a few times in church and then go home and bang my "church sista." That is the new nightclub. There are PLENTY of churches here in the DC area that I could choose from. ( Not gonna name them) Go join a church, dress in suits EVERY Sunday, wear Obsession or Cool Water cologne, join the "single's ministry", then fellowship by going to the Bowling and pizza party on Saturday night. While I am bowling, start flirting with one of the other "sisters" in the ministry. "So, sista Pam, you need to stop coming to church with your gurls hanging out every week. You are making it hard for a brother to pay attention. Pam, you are already an attractive woman so be nice to a me on Sunday's ok?" Now PAM is smiling for days and will now start to dress even sexier. So FELLAS, leave the clubs alone. Run up into one of the many churches and join the "singles ministry" or the "dance team". Women will come just tosee YOU dance on 3rd Sundays. Trust me. Have a great day family! LOL
Name: Mz. B. Age: 44 Radio Station: WHUR 96.3 FM Washington DC Good morning, all! Dear My Flesh is Weak But My Spirit is Willing, You called it right...Your flesh is weak, o.k.? To sum it up, you are addicted to this man; a church friend with "benefits." PLEASE STOP RIGHT HERE AND THERE WITH THIS COMMENT!!!! "To make a long story short this man seems to be hindering my spirit by trying to keep me disobedient if you know what I mean. He says he can be my friend and let me do what God wants me to do, and that doesn't mean we can't be around each or go out and be friends. However, when we do get together, we end up in bed. Steve, Shirley I don't know how to get this man out of my life. I've prayed and asked God for guidance and when I try to ignore his constant phone calls and him showing up at my door, I just feel guilty because he seems so lost without me." I don't even know what is up with that comment for real...If you feel that this man is killing your spirit, then there is nothing spiritually, mentally, and physically would keep you from receiving him in the bedroom, and God is telling you this is not the man for you. I'm just sayin... WOW! Uncle Steve, Auntie Shirley, and the fam have to crack this code much further...Good luck, and God Bless! HAVE A BLESSED DAY EVERYONE!
Name: What Makes You Think You Should CHANGE YOUR NUMBER, MOVE ON Age: 45 Radio Station: WHUR 96.3 FM Washington DC ..... and AVOID HIM. You Carnal Christians are a force to reckon with. What's saved about you. You met him because your fast behind WANTED to meet him, and God has nothing to do with you laying up. Yes, PLEASE give him the ultimatum to marry you so that you can realize how little you mean to him - WHERE ARE YOU GOING TO GET MARRIED AT, ON THE BUS. You ADMIT he's a hindrance, but you want him to marry you - WHAT IS THERE TO MARRY with neither of you knowing your head from your behind. How is he lost without you when he was alive and well before YOU MET HIM. You're nothing more than a STRUMPET trying to be cute on Sundays; you arrive LATE for Service so that you parade through the church showcasing "your man" hanging from your arms - AND YOU'RE THE LOUDEST SNATCH IN SERVICE, echoing every word after the Pastor. "You Better Tell That Pastor", "Awwww, Ya' Teaching Good Bishop, Ya' Teaching Good", "Run Wit It Rev". Meanwhile, he's PIMPing with you through the church and his partners are looking at him like, "What's Up Cuz' What Flava' You Working Wit Now" - BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT THE FIRST (OR LAST) MUFFIE HE'S TRICKED INTO "GOING" TO CHURCH. Open your eyes and look around you, and you'll see who's glaring and looking at you out the sides of their eyes. Why bring this to a WORLDLY forum instead of seeking spiritual guidance, which by the way you don't have to because YOU ALREADY KNOW THE ANSWER. YOU're the confused reason why unbelievers refer to Christians as HYPOCRITES. You've literally put this penis BEFORE God and you have the nerve to ask what. Neither of you have it together FINANCIALLY, SPIRITUALLY, EMOTIONALLY - the list goes on. You're A Hot Gaplegged Mess. Having a PERSONAL and INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP with God is all about denying your flesh and saying NO to what you used to say yes to, Having Kingdom Authority is all about living an OBEDIENCE and DISCIPLINED upright life. YOU're another reason why people making altar calls BETTER BE CAREFUL WHO THEY LET LAY HANDS ON THEM AND PRAY OVER THEM, because you just don't know how lopsided the next person is living. Don't be shocked WHEN he gives you something you can't pronounce or get rid of since you casually use God's name in YOUR sandbox. Your spirit is convicting you and you're still ignoring God speaking clearly to you via WOMENS INTUITION - you deserve the HEADACHES, DISAPPOINTMENT, EMBARRASSMENT and every other heart wrenching emotions from lust that you'll soon experience. Seek DELIVERANCE away from PIMP DADDY while you can, and try not to get jealous when you see him strutting through Service with another Muffie - just be grateful you were WISE enough to stay on the wall with God.
Name: Mz. B. TO Mr. C. Age: 44 Radio Station: WHUR 96.3 FM Washington DC Mr. C., I have to give you much props...You've got the game down packed. LOLLOL! Crack that code!
Name: Henry D Age: 37 Radio Station: WHUR 96.3 FM Washington DC Well it is not to much to said ,you are a lot of women in the world you dont know what you want you are just confuse.The last word of the day is,you can't make a man.
Name: Crystal Age: 36 Radio Station: WHUR 96.3 FM Washington DC Well God has already answered you, it's called the Holy Bible. Your answers are all in and through there. I think alot of times we ask God for answers and direction and alot times it's right there. Get into His presence and read His word and He'll open the mysteries of His word to you. Now, whether you listen or not is up to you. If he is the one then he would respect not only you but God first, that's the real committment. If he's is claiming Christ sincerely, he as well as you have to put Christ first and everything else will fall into place. I'm not judging, trust me I'm speaking to myself too. It's amazing to me how God can use anybody to minister to somebody because I'm been going through in that area also so this is for me as well.
Name: Kim Age: 35 Radio Station: WHUR 96.3 FM Washington DC Dear ........my flesh is weak!!! We are not God, and He is the only one who can answer your questions. I say put your problems in the "things for God to handle" box and let it be. I say talk to this man, over the phone if you have to so you can avoid the bed, and let him know that you deeply do not desire to fornicate. Let him know that he has introduced you to a life with God and you love it!!! I wouldn't tell you to give him an ultimatum for the simple fact that you're not satisfied with his finances, which will cause a big problem in your relationship sooner or later. Tell him you want to end your relationship with him and move on. You have to will the strength to resist this man.
Name: Leet Age: 54 Radio Station: WHUR 96.3 FM Washington DC Matthew 5:29&30 - Amplified Version "And if your right eye serves as a trap to ensnare you or is an occasion for you to stumble and sin, pluck it out and throw it away. It is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be cast into hell. And if your right hand serves as a trap to ensnare you or is an occasion for you to stumble and sin, cut it off and cast it from you. It is better that you lose one of your members than that your entire body should be cast into hell." You said that the two of you are like kids in a sandbox. It feels like such pure happy fun doesn't it? How could something so pure and happy lead to anything bad? This is how: Proverbs 5:3-6 New International Version "For the lips of an adultress drip honey and her speech is smoother than oil; but IN THE END she is bitter as gall, sharp as a two edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave. She gives no thought to the way of LIFE; her paths are crooked and she knows it not." Those are the written words of the spirit of God. You can count upon the truth of them. And one more thing ... Little sister, if the spirit of fornication has attached itself and ensnared you in your friendship with this man, what makes you think that such a spirit will depart simply because you succeed in marrying this man for the wrong reasons? Such a spirit could wreak havoc on a marriage. Heed God's word. He does not provide us with commandments without providing us with the means to obey them. He loves us more than we can ever comprehend.
Name: LadyLuv "Stop trying to handle the situation yourself" Age: 29 Radio Station: WMXD 92.3 FM Detroit, MI Wow!!! Good Morning Mr.Steve and the Morning Crew. Let me start off to say Happy New Year to all the readers, and to the cast of Steve Harvey's show.. To the response to this strawberry letter. Dear My flesh is weak... The key word is "FLESH".... Now your flesh is responding to the sexual appetite that you have for this man. The only reason why you can't shake this man is because you are doing it on your own... If You prayed and ask God to take care of it... Leave it alone. Don't do no more to the situation.... God knows what he is doing. He's waiting for you to leave it alone. You have to place your FLESH under submission to God. This man is going to come around as long as you allow him to. And when he comes over you'll both be in the bed. Young Lady, your feeling guilty because you know you are trying to live right for the Lord. In the back of your mind it is letting you know that you have done wrong in the eyes of God.. The only way that you can fix it is let God handle it. The man seems like all that he want from you is sex. You said that your spirit is willing? ... willing to do what? Your spirit isn't willing to have sex with a man who isn't your husband.... Lady, maybe it's just me, but maybe he should have asked your hand in marriage before the both of you fornicated. If you were that weak, you and him should never be alone. That is a area in your life that isn't strong. If you've just started going to church. There are somethings you can't do until you are very strong in your word (bible), where you can fight temptation. A man can only do to you what you allow him to do...You are typing in this letter already know what you will do. If you don't get the right response that you are looking for you probably still will be sleeping with this man. Why will he want to marry someone he is already getting "free" sex from? I will share with you what I told someone a long time ago.. The story sounds familiar.. I just let her know, that if you want to see if this man loves you. Stop the sex. And let him know what it is that you want. If he can't wait to have sex with you. tell him he needs to step. And that he isn't the one that God wants you to be with.. But if that man can wait with you and stand the test of time without being intimate with you for maybe 3-6 months, or maybe a year. Than he can marry you. Set STANDARDS for the man who says he "loves" you? Love isn't just between the opposite's sex legs. It's more than that. Keep your head up! Let go, and Let God. He will never do you wrong. Stay faithful to God's word. Stay faithful to him. I hope things workout for you, and that you will make the right decision concerning your life. Be Blessed!! 09 will be the best year! ~LadyLuv~ '09
Name: Mista Carr Age: 52 Radio Station: WMXD 92.3 FM Detroit, MI I'll be damn, I thought I was the only one out here at onetime or another in the past, with the weak flesh Sin-drome, lol . Lady , eveybody has dealt with personal vices in their lives at onetime or another, and everbody in church , AIN'T IN CHURCH!!!can you dig that? You speak of "GODS OBEDIANCE, buT yet , you allow someone the easy option of talkin you out draaws or vice-versa? but then again , you got them weak flesh issues . Let me cut through the chase , Lady you are a freak who is just messed up in the head , and you relish the fact that you got a sucka in on a string . You sad two kids in a sandbox , well , jack and jill went up the hill . OUT!
Name: Adrienne Age: 41 Radio Station: WDAS 105.3 FM Philadelphia, PA Sister in Christ:, please understand that people are not beating you up they are looking out for you. We as church folk have the tendency to come at others too hard when we need to be applying that energy to ourselves. If you can not stay away from this man then that is your situation as well as his but don't think that you are stronger in the Lord then he is because you are not. We all fall short of God's glory every last one of us and in some way, some form, some fashion we ALL are going to sin but know that the more you walk with God the more you will try not to sin but it is going to happen. Don't look for another church home, why, why get up and leave the sanctuary? Just stay in prayer and focus on God and God and God alone will lead you in the right direction. May you be blessed in the name of the Lord
Name: Jackie Age: 52 Radio Station: WDAS 105.3 FM Philadelphia, PA My sister did a play called "Torn Between the Two" because for years even though she was committed to a spiritual walk with God, she let her flesh take her off the path many times. It is an excellent play and she wrote all the songs herself. Check out keepitinthefamilyproduction dot com to get a copy. I promise you, you won't be disappointed. Many sisters came back to see the play again because it gave them the courage to change. Even though the message is strong, she really needs to find someone to help her get the songs published, because those by themselves are worth gold. Be blessed.
Name: SHANEL JOHNSON Age: 35 Radio Station: WDAS 105.3 FM Philadelphia, PA As my pastor always says, "If you can't say Amen say ouch" OUCH!
Name: Wisdom in da streetz (sike nah! It's Caityb) Age: 20 Radio Station: WDAS 105.3 FM Philadelphia, PA You�re making excuses. Your spirit is willing�to have sex�and the flesh is weak�and easily swayed. I can�t agree that he was using the church to get in her pants because he intro�d her to church AFTER they slept together. She said she �started� a �relationship� with God AFTER they slept together. "I started a relationship with God by daily prayers and worship." That's not how you start a relationship with God. "He says he can be my friend and let me do what God wants me to do, and that doesn't mean we can't be around each or go out and be friends. However, when we do get together, we end up in bed." So at this point he's not offering sex, you are. You know he's going to take it! That's why you offered it! " Steve, Shirley I don't know how to get this man out of my life." Yeah you do. You just don't want to because you enjoy the sex too much. Don't make this seem like it's all his fault. If he's ok with being friends take him at his word and just be his friend. If he starts coming on to you then you may want to dump him as a friend as well. "I just feel guilty because he seems so lost without me." No, he's lost without the bus. (lol) This sentence really adds to the �I can do not wrong� feel you have going throughout this whole letter. "He goes to church regularly but he doesn't have the same experience as I'm seem to be having regarding God's word about disobedience, and fornication!!" How would you know that? In fact it seems like ya'll are having the same experience. God's saying don't do it an ya'll are replying by saying, "yeah whatever." Just because someone goes to church doesn�t mean they have a relationship with God. Heck, it doesn�t even mean he�s a good man! "Should I give him an ultimatum to marry me, which he says he wants to everyday - but doesn't have it all together financially" Why marry a man who you know can't support a family? You'd be marrying him for the sex anyway. Even though that isn't outlawed in the Bible (marrying for sex) it does say that even if you marry for that reason you have to respect the sanctity of that marriage. Ask yourself this, if ya'll got married and something were to happen to him and he couldn't have sex anymore would you still love him? Be completely honest. You may not like your answer. �should I change my phone number, avoid him and move on.� I guess if you really think it would help�but I think you�d find him, give him your number and address, and start sleeping with him all over again. If you seriously think he�s so lost without you then you�d probably do just that.
Name: Georgetta Age: 33 Radio Station: WBAV 101.9 FM Charlotte, NC Sister, please give me a break. You are killing my spirit with such nonsense. We have all been in situation where we struggled with the flesh and wrestled with a relationship with God. There comes a time when you have to put flesh aside and say what is best for my spirit. I dont just mean your spirit in regards to your relationship with God, but your spirit about yourself. Apparently your spirit is not right. How can you say "Should I give him an ultimatum to marry me, which he says he wants to everyday - but doesn't have it all together financially; or should I change my phone number, avoid him and move on" but you say you love him, and you cannot seem to stay out the bed when you are around each other. It is simple, either you want the man or not regardless to if he has alot of money or no money. Are you suprised at this? Did you not say you met him on the bus? Why were you not asking all these foundational questions and seeing where he was spiritually before jumping into bed with him over and over again. I am not judging you because I have also been there and done that. I tell you what, speaking from experience, it was not hard at all for me to let that go especially knowing our main connection was a physical connection versus spiritual.Knowing that I am thetype of woman who wants more out of a relationship with a man then a physical connection.I was able to set aside the flesh, focus on myself, and love myself, and view myself the one God views me. I would say to you. LEAVE THAT MAN ALONE. You are hindering him from growing and maturing into the man God want him to be by constantly giving into to his physical need. You are ruining your soul and yourself by compromising your real needs for physical needs. WAKE UP..... DO NOT MARRY ANYONE YOU HAVE ANY DOUBTS ABOUT ESPECIALLY FINANCIAL IF THAT IS IMPORTANT TO YOU.
Name: Wanda Age: 44 Radio Station: WBAV 101.9 FM Charlotte, NC You need to focus on what's good for your life. You sound like you're wanting to please God but you're unable to do that by pleasing that flesh. You can NOT do both. You need to make some decisions. Surround yourself with some Strong/Real Christian Sisters who can encourage you. You are not alone in your sexual struggle because there are a lot of people in the church satisfying the flesh but you're the only one that's being transparent. If you're interested in that brother, you need to encourage him to get involved in the Men's Ministry to help him too & if he's not willing to put God first.... You need to renew your mind in 2009
Name: MiSs B! Age: 21 Radio Station: WUHT 107.7 FM Birmingham, AL Look here lil homie! You can't blame it all on this man. And I want you to stop trying to put it on him. It takes two to tango so they say and honey this man aint raping you. You're getting your behind in bed with this man. If you feel so strongly about not having sex until marriage then that's exactly what it needs to be. You have a mouth and can speak (I hope) if not sign language is a language. You don't have to have sex everytime yall go out. You have a choice and you made it everytime you hopped in bed. You don't want to leave this man because everytime he calls you you end up answering him. It's not that deep to have to change your number. Girl stop playing. If this man says he wants to marry you then let him know that if he wants to HAVE you he needs to put a ring on it. As for you girl get it together you know how to say NO. You been practicing since you were a little girl. Enough said. You want to obey God do that nobody should get in the way of you pleasing God. PERIOD. Please get it together. LIVE LAUGH LOVE!!!
Name: Erica L Age: 20 Radio Station: WUHT 107.7 FM Birmingham, AL It seems your willing spirit is too willing to do the same thing your weak flesh does. You know how to tell someone to leave you alone don't you? Or are you weak minded too? He "SAYS" he wants to marry you. If he did, he'd have dropped to one knee already. You obviously are enjoying this because you know you don't want to marry him. His finances aren't right. You are enjoying sleeping with this man. If you weren't, you wouldn't continue to see him, afterall, "every time we end up in bed." You know the rules of the game before you start playing yet you play every time expecting a different result. He could be the one, we can't tell you that, BUT if he's the one maybe you should chat with him about being on the same spiritual path. You started out praying, or so you say, now you end up callin' Jesus for the wrong reason while in the sack. You are only misguiding yourself by allowing yourself to keep seeing him knowing what the situation is. Pray for wisdom, and keep walking with God. Do know though, that your man friend isn't making you do anything YOU don't want to do.
Name: Mr. Champagne Age: 51 Radio Station: WXST 99.7 FM Charleston, SC You sound like you really want to follow God's plan. But you say your flesh is weak. Well darling understand sometimes "He" puts things in our path, it's a test ( if you beleive ) before we can truly be blessed. (And this is just one man's view) We need to show we're worthy and devoted. Then this brother could be the one. I don't know about the marrying thing just yet. But I'd say continue to see him, (at least he does go to church) cut back on "da bump an grind" and see what happens. But on the real, there's alot of Christians doing it for Christ. I think I better stop now. I may cross the line. But stay strong you're only human...... go head get "ya freak on"...
Name: Suzette Age: 34 Radio Station: WXST 99.7 FM Charleston, SC I don't see the ultimatum! She has lowered her standards, and now wants an answer to help her to compromise. She knows what she needs to do. Drop him, and move on. If he is the one, let God work it out. But, right now she is in God's way. 1st of all you met him on a bus, i mean come on. "YOU CAN DO BAD ALL BY YOURSELF, YOU DON'T NEED NOBODY TO HELP YOU" Move on Lady, your playing with your soul here and it's not worth it. Your personal relationship with Christ is more important. You said your going to church and reading the word and all of that, okay bring your flesh under subjection as the word says, and work your faith, change your number and let him go. If he's the one God will work that our for you.
Name: CJ Age: 44 Radio Station: WTYB 103.9 FM Savannah, GA Some of your biggest womanizers are right in the church! Ever hear of "wolves in sheeps clothing"? Well thats what you are dealing with, Coupled with confusion. This is not a mutual relationship, as your suitor has lead you to believe. This is a situation where you are being pressured so bad, you cant even make your own decisions. Honey, you are being stalked and harrassed, but he uses flattery to get you to buy into it. Pull yourself together and tell this guy to back off! ANd if he doesnt, treat him just like you would any other stalker. Believe me he doesnt have your best interest at heart. Its just another way to play the game.
Name: elena tuft Age: 33 Radio Station: WLZN 92.3 FM Macon, GA Type your Comment Here what also should have been noted that in the book of 11 Peter 2:9 states that-The Lord knoweth how to deliver the Godly out of temptations,and to reserve the unjust unto the day of judgement to be punished. so in my understanding,it's saying that we need to pray for strengh to help us to resist temptations and let God handle the one that causing you to go astry or else he'll handle you too! Just because he's in church doesnt make him "saved". Preachers are in church and not saved! Also, i love the show but i dont agree with teasing or cursing and using God's name in vain:example- Lord have mercy(used in your jokes)his name should not be used in vain. Wealth is good here on earth but your true riches comes from the Lord above come jugdement day. Shirley, you seem to know alot about the Bible. Thanks for including his words in your advice to people. May God continue to bless you all.
Name: Von Age: 36 Radio Station: WMRZ 98.1 FM Albany, GA People who don't take the time to study God's word and know what it really means do not need to try and quote it. Stop relying on others and our Western mentality. Take the time to understand the cultutre and time in which the Bible itself was written. WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT FORNICATION? Do yourself a big favor and do a word search for every occurance of the word fornicate, fornication, and fornicating; then go to Lev. Cptr 18 on Forbidden Sexual Relations and search the internet on A List of the 613 Mitzvot (Jewish Commanments). The Bible say to study to show yourself approved unto God. Please stop taking everyone else's word for learning what God has for you and to say to you.
Name: cassie Age: 56 Radio Station: WAMJ 102.5 FM Atlanta, GA You are hindering your own spirit. You say when you "get together", you wind up in bed. Now does he force you there? If not, then you wind up there of your own free will. Don't put the blame on him. It's your choice to say yes or no. God hasd nothing to do with it. It's the lust that's talking. If the man is a good man, don't throw him to the wolves trying to blame him for your weaknesses. You need to seek counseling if you feel this is intefering with your walk with God. But dont make him the heavy in this. Changing your phone number and the like will not change your feelings for him. You'll only end up giving him the new one, lol, then bam, back at square one. Work on you. Think before you move. Good men are not easy to come by. If you truly care for him, then marry him. You state that he wants to. Finances can get better with the work of two people with the same vision. If you can't handle it, somebody else will.
Name: Juanda Age: 48 Radio Station: WAMJ 102.5 FM Atlanta, GA Okay.. you talk the talk but can you walk the walk.. Desire has to be there for temptation to occur.. He tempts you, but you desire the fornication in the first place..You have to make a choice.. Anyone who wants you to compromise what you truly believe in is not worth marrying, dating, etc.. You have to take a stand.. You and you alone are responsible for what you do so I say cut him loose..
Name: Ms Leo Age: 38 Radio Station: KHTE 96.5 FM Little Rock, AR This is to all of the men out there that say they want to marry us but do not have it together financially. That is a cop out. If you truly love someone you will be together whether you are broke or poor. There are plenty of poor married couples in love. your financial security is in you.
Name: KW Age: 38 Radio Station: WMKS 105.7 Greensboro, NC Yes,your flesh is very weak simply because you wound up sleeping with him but yet you complaining about it by writing Steve wanting advice. It sounds like you met him under the worst circumstances cuz he's doing nothing but playin you for a fool and you weak enough to let him take advantage of you. I know it seems like you two are a match made in heaven and there's nobody else you want to be with but I can tell you it's the other way around. And why is he,as you stated,always at your front door and constantly calling you, does he have his own place? What I don't understand is that you are complaining about his financial situation but yet you keep saying how much you love him, sounds like you want to be with him for all the wrong reasons. You mentioned the fact about wanting to move on but I bet you if that happens,he'll be calling you and knocking on your door within days wanting you back,why because your flesh is weak just like you said.
Name: Arrance Age: 41 Radio Station: WRBO 103.5 Memphis, TN First off, your priorities aren�t together if you've been late to work many times b/c you must hear Steve�s responses. Secondly, I don�t personally see the problem with your situation. You said that you like this dude, and that you two are like kids in a sand box when together. My question is why ruin a good thing like that with the problems that come with marriage and/or religion? Jesus and Mary M. were more than friends, and both are still highly regarded by most.
Name: PEEBLES Age: 42 Radio Station: WRBO 103.5 Memphis, TN GIRL YOU ARE JUST AS CRAZY AS YOU ARE WEAK. YOUR JUST FILLING HIS SEXUAL NEEDS , WHILE HE HAS ON HIS SHEEP CLOTHING IN THE CHURCH.GIRL, YOU ARE NOT WEAK YOUR JUST STUPID. YOU NEED TO PRAY AND LET HIM GET HIMSELF TOGETHER AND YOU DO THE SAME. GIRL RUN TO JESUS NOT TO HIM AND STOP ANSWEREING YOUR PHONE OK.
Name: TCB Age: 42 Radio Station: WRBO 103.5 Memphis, TN First, if you are truly a "spiritual" person, you will be more concerned about obedience to do God's Will; not how to keep a man. You should have kept YOUR legs closed and hold on to Bible principles. You aew well aware that the the Bible clearly does condem fornication and many other acts that adults make excuses to practice. Yes, the flesh is weak, and the spirit is willing. However, you got to be smarter about this...1) distance between you; 2) Dicuss the role of God in both of your lives and mean it; and lastly, 3) If you want to be together --just get married. Basically, if both of you are truly committed and want to do the right thing -- make your relationship HONORABLE before God! - Just something to think about @ 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, God says anyone practicing lying, stealing, fornicating, murder, etc..."You will NOT inherit my Kingdom." As the Creator, God knows our frailities (weaknesses); however, He would never command us to do something that is impossible, such the thing mentioned above. God loves us and He is serious about us. We need to love Him and get serious about God.
Name: voltaire Age: 69 Radio Station: WAMO 106.7 FM Pittsburgh, PA GOOD MORNING FAMILY - A BLESSED DAY TO ALL - TO MS FLESH IS WEAK- GIRLFRIEND YOU'RE ALL OVER MAP ON THIS ONE. DOES HE LOVE YOU? HECK NO, YOU'RE NOTHING BUT THIS SNAKE IN THE GRASS'S BOOTY CALL.AS A CONSELOR IN MY FORMER CHURCH I'VE SEEN THIS ALL THE TIME.SISTERS LIKE YOURSELF FALL PREY TO THESE PREDATORS THAT ARE LURKING IN THE PEWS TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOUR DIRE SITUATION. THIS IS THE VERY REASON I'M ON A SABBATTICAL NOW.I BROUGHT THIS PROBLEM TO THE PASTOR AND HIS RESPONSE WAS TO "LET THEM WORK IT OUT". MANY YOUNG WOMEN WOULD COME TO MY OFFICE COMPLAINING ABOUT THIS COMMON PUZZLE.THERE ARE THESE CLOWNS THAT ARE LAYING IN WAIT FOR YOU YOUNG LADIES THAT ARE DOWN ON THIER FORTUNES.THEY APPROACH YOU (UNDER THE GUISE OF BEING YOUR FRIEND),GET YOU TO CONFIDE IN THEM AND START TO GIVE ADVICE (EVEN PRAY WITH YOU OR EVEN HAVE BOGUS BIBLE STUDIES)NEXT STOP THE SERTA PERFECT SLEEPER. I'VE LOBBIED TO HAVE ALL SINGLE YOUNG LADIES THAT JOIN THE CONGEGRATION BE ASSIGNED TO A FEMALE COUNTERPART,TO NO AVAIL.PASTOR CLAIMED THEY WERE ADULTS AND THEY SHOULD KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THEIR OWN BUSINESS. WELL I'M NOT CRITICIZING HIM BUT MANY OF THESE LADIES HAVE LEFT THE CHURCH DISILLUSIONED BY THE EXPERIENCE WITH THESE PEW PIMPS. BELIEVE ME,IT'S VERY COMMON IN CHURCHES EVERYWHERE. BUT BACK TO OUR SISTER HERE.YOU MUST MAKE A DECISION THAT FITS YOUR CONDITION. I CAN'T TELL EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT. YOU TRIED TO IGNORE HIM BUT HE STILL SHOWS UP,I IMAGINE YOU GAVE IN AGAIN. BUT THEN YOU SAY YOU LOVE HIM, SHOULD YOU MARRY HIM? YOU ARE FORNACATING AND FEELING GUILTY AFTERWARDS. WELL TRY TO THINK MORE MATURE ABOUT WHAT'S HAPPENING HERE. IF YOU HAVE NO SUPPORT FROM YOUR CHURCH TO ADDRESS YOUR DILIEMMA, FIND ANOTHER CHURCH. YOU SHOULD CUT LOOSE AND DUMP THIS SPIRITUAL GIGOLO. FIND SOME SPIRITUAL HELP TO GET YOUR HORMONES UNDER CONTROL(IT AIN'T JUST HIM). WORK ON GETTING YOUR LIFE BACK TOGETHER SO NO ONE CAN USURP YOUR SELF ESTEEM AGAIN. BUT IF ALL FAILS AND YOU CAN'T CONTROL YOUR SEXUAL ADDICTION THAT YOU HAVE FOR HIM,SEE IF HE'LL MARRY YOU TO AT LEAST YOU CAN GET RIGHT WITH GOD(POOR EXCUSE FOR A WEDDING, BUT WHAT OTHER CHOICE DO YOU HAVE?). I HOPE YOU WEED OUT THIS SOMEWHAT COMPLEX PROBLEM AND FIND A WAY TO PUT CHRIST FIRST. DON'T PLAY WITH GOD, YOU'RE ONLY PLAYING YOURSELF. YOUR LETTER IS A JUST THE TIP OF AN ICEBERG OF THE PROBLEM THAT CHURCHES ARE FACING WITH THESE BROTHERS THAT GAME ON WELL MEANING SISTERS TRYING TO TURN THEIR LIVES AROUND. YOUR PROBLEM CAN BE SOLVED. MAKE THIS BROTHER OWN UP TO HIS WALK WITH GOD AND STOP SWAPPING DNA WITH HIM WITHOUT THE COMMITTMENT. YESTERDAY WE HAD THE SAME SITUATION WITH A GHETTO TWIST, YOU ARE NO BETTER THAN THE LADY THAT TOOK THINGS AND MONEY FOR SEX. PRAY (SERIOUSLY) PRAY FOR YOUR DELIVERANCE FROM THIS SEXUAL DEMON. JESUS SAID I'D RATHER YOU BE HOT OR COLD, STOP VACILLATING ON THIS ISSUE, YOUR LIFE IN CHRIST HINGES ON IT.
Name: Lady TaShonda Age: 29 Radio Station: WBTP 95.7 FM Tampa, FL Good morning family, Weak in the Flesh you stated you have prayed in ask God to help you remove this man out of your life. Then you stated you try not to answer his phone calls, but "he seems lost without you." Sister you need to be honest with yourself. This man is not lost without you, he is using you in your salvation. God has given you the power of free will and the power of choice. "CHOOSE YE THIS DAY WHOM YE WILL SERVE!!!!" Yes, God answers prayers but He also gave us the power of choice. How can God do a work in you; when have not given up your fleshly ways. This man is only doing what you allow him to do. And by as means do not give him an ultimatum,"MARRY YOU OR ELSE". Sister, you really need to prayer more for yourself and get a closer walk with God. Have a bless day. Lady TaShonda
Name: SUNSHINE Age: 35 Radio Station: WBTP 95.7 FM Tampa, FL THIS LETTER IS CRAZY. IT'S ALL OVER THE MAP. ANYWAY, I'VE BEEN TOLD YOU CAN'T STAY IN BED FOREVER. SO, IF YOU ARE BASING IT ALL ON SEX. WHAT'S AFTER SEX? I THINK YOU SHOULD HAVE A HEART TO HEART CONVERSATION WITH HIM. FIND OUT WHAT HE IS PLANNING TO DO FOR HIMSELF FINANCIALLY OR WHAT DOES HIS FUTURE HOLD. IF YOU REALLY CARE FOR HIM AND THINK ITS SOMETHING THERE OTHER THAN SEX, I THINK YOU SHOULD TELL HIM. IF HE'S NOT WITH IT, KEEP IT MOVING. BEST OF LUCK!
Name: cocomil Age: 45 Radio Station: WBTP 95.7 FM Tampa, FL I have a new respect for you Steve, your response was on target. Shirley responded great also, but from a mans point of view you hit all the right targets. Her respect for herself, relationship with God, honesty with herself. You are being used by God, you are a TD Jakes in the making. Thank you for being a real man, ladies will love you and men will hate you for giving us the opportunity to know how men think. I am not much of a reader but I will be getting your book, and if I can I will also get one for my daughter, sister and the young females I associate with. I love the laughter, the realness but also the serious side when its needed from your crew. I love all of you, Tommy, yes craziness runs in your family we can hear that.
Name: Tenisha Age: 30 Radio Station: WQUE 93.3 FM New Orleans, LA Many times women make excuses for the relationships they choose to be in. To me, she was looking for you Steve to tell her that it is okay to condone her realationship with this man b/c they are "like kids in a sand box"! She felt if she really explained how strong their connection is you would tell her to hang in there. I think you were absolutely correct in your response to her about her standards. It is a shame that it takes us (women) so long to develop standards and then stick to them! I am going to purchase your book today. I am very interested in reading what is always a great topic to talk about (men & women)and how to better understand my husband!
Name: Mike Age: 27 Radio Station: WBTJ 106.5 FM Richmond, VA 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 - Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10 nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God. AKJV - You choose what life you lead.
Name: Writer is the fornicator not her accomplice I mean boyfriend Age: 34 Radio Station: KIIZ 92.3 FM Killeen, TX So it is just the guy's fault. They just end up in bed together. But it is his fault. It is only him fornicating. Lady get real. You are doing dirt. You are at fault. You can only control the actions of one person, yourself. And you are the one spreading her legs, letting him come around, answering his phone calls. Get real. Wake up. Stop fornicating, I mean you not him. You are the sinful one. You are the one disobeying your God. It is not his fault. It is your's. Take responsibility. If for not following God's path, then at least for your own actions. I am sure you will not. Because you want this man you call a sinner, fornicator and someone not following the path and goals for your life, you called him THE ONE. Please. You are out of your mind.
Name: Is this a case of rape- Angry Man Age: 34 Radio Station: KIIZ 92.3 FM Killeen, TX If this is not rape, the letter writer is the one doing wrong. Say no, to everything, and move on. You say you follow God and than fornicate, what? You are confused. You are the one doing wrong.
Name: Catherine Age: 43 Radio Station: KMJM 104.9 FM St. Louis, MO Stop acting like this man has more power than he does. You are choosing to answer this man's call, let him into your home, when he shows up at your door, and to sleep with him. If you don't want him in your life don't let him in. Tell him it's over. This told you he had financial problems, so why would you WANT to marry him. Get your life together and leave his man alone. You have more power than you think.
Name: kf Age: 44 Radio Station: WWLD 102.3 FM Tallahassee, FL Good morning Steve Harvey and the morning crew. My commit to this lady is i think she realizes this type of relationship with this man is not what she wants. The older generation or the ones older than myself always say be careful what you ask for because god will give you what you want no matter how you get it it's coming you can either except it or don't. So the man have a little financial problems so do you. He goes to church and so do you. He likes to have sex and obviously you do to. I always learn with past relationship that i thought was relationships is how you start it off that's how they expect it to continue. So if you want to call it quites do it and mean it because if you really no this man and he if is truly a man who cares for the words of God and you whatever you want he will do.
Name: Amado Age: 29 Radio Station: WPHR 106.9 FM Syracuse, NY Gives us this day the Lord Has made, lest us rejoice and be glad, Praise him all the time. I know the flesh is weak, if you are truly trying to live your life faithful for Christ then you should pray to and ask Christ to deliver you from this confusing situation. You know what pleases him and what doesn't, so don't let the enemy come in and trip your mind up, we shouldn't compromise with sin. Obviously you guys are both on different spiritual walk with Christ. Im sure you both know what you guys are doing is wrong in the eyes of God because you know his word. The saying is when you know better you do better. I think you should talk to this man and let him know how you feel and stand with this situation. You are not just saving your soul but his too at the same time. Prayer is the key and staying in the word will ground you. We all struggle daily with our walk in Christ, that is why we all need to accept him fully into our lives turn over all our burdens and sins to him. He ONLY can restore our souls. Repent, Repent, Repent your sins, and by doing this is acknowledging your wrongs to him and that you will not or try hard not to fall into it again. Repenting is not saying I'm Sorry to GOD but is to have that internal fear knowing that he can punish us for defying his word. ONLY he knows your heart truly and what your intensions are. Remember God doesn't operate in chaos, don't compromise with sin and don't let his sins become your sins, be blessed stay strong in your faith for. Jesus is the ONLY way.
Name: Nisha Age: 30 Radio Station: WBLX - 93 WBLX Mobile, Alabama I understand you are a god fearing woman and desire to have a like-minded mate; however, judging by the letter you submitted the gentleman you are currently involved with cannot provide you with your wants, needs or desires. I strongly suggest that you move on and wait for you blessing to come to you. He will come in the form of a Christian man who puts God first and will be able to be the head-of-the-household and take care of his family. A man that is not financially sound cannot be the head of his household. Judging by the fact you two met on a bus and you stating that he told you his finances are in poor condition is a clear indicator that this man is not ready for any type of real commitment. His life is not in order and neither is yours. I recommend for you to focus on God and yourself...and simply wait for your God chosen man to come to you.