The Strawberry Letter 23

STRAWBERRY LETTER FOR TODAY

Date: 07/03/2009
Subject: Old Man

I have been having so much trouble with my marriage. I married my husband in 2000. He was 64 and I was 32 when we first met. The problem is 9 years later he is now 73 and having many problems. He is no longer able to walk without the use of a walker. He also has trouble with his bowls. He refuses to go to the doctor to have something done and he also refuses to go to a nursing home. I have a very nice place and I am constantly having to replace rugs in my house and completely take my toilet apart to clean all the stains. I gag and throw up when I clean up this mess. I knew he was older when I married him but this whole thing has just gotten RIDICULOUS. I am very sick on my stomach and can no longer manage to even get close to him. IN SHORT I AM IN DISGUSTED. I am now a 42 year old women who needs companionship with someone who has more common with me. Men ask me out all the time..Although he provides money for the household- which I need very much. I can no longer stomach this situation. Please Help!

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Name: Jazzie Age: 53 Radio Station: WBLS 107.5 FM New York, NY Lady ...Steve and Nephew are going to have a field day with this this letter..lol..Girl, you ought to have known better. This man was 32 years older than you when you married him....32...not 10...not 20...but 32!!!!....What in the world were you thinking? Why did you marry him? Was it his money?...okay it's spilled milk....Well you are going to have to threaten to leave him if he does not go to the doctor. If this does not work, get the family together for an intervention to try to get him to go to the doctor, or try to get a doctor to come to the house. If you don't do something you will continue to gag and throw up!!! Please don't divorce him, I think it would hurt him....In sickness or in health lady...you took those vows!!!!!As for men asking you out, i feel you, but you know it aint right, but that's on you.
Name: Monica Age: 48 Radio Station: WBLS 107.5 FM New York, NY Well that is sometimes the price you pay, and it is not always because of the age difference. A young person can fall ill and require the same attention. What did the vows say for better or worse. Sickness or health. I can say he is inconsiderate and should go to a nurshing home, but he might be thinking when your young greedy behind wanted his much older financially off behind you were not thinking this far ahead. So stick it out. I can see where your mind always was. On his wallet. Despite all you are going through you mentioned that. That is a good lesson for people to learn. There is no damn way you two ever had anything in common. If I am not mistaken he had a walker when you meet him. Is his mind intact or is he doing this deliberately. Get hired help.
Name: Me Age: 47 Radio Station: WBLS 107.5 FM New York, NY For the writer. If I was in your shoes, I feel that your letter is information that would have only gone from my mouth to God's ears. This is the life that you chose. Although you did not ask for all that you are getting, but you knew that there was a possibility that this day would come. A marriage consist of dealing with the "good" and with the "bad". You seem to want to reap all the benefits from the goods, but want to run rom the bad. And now you want someone else to tell you it's okay for you to cheat on your husband when he needs you the most. You did not say that you do not have time, or that you are not physicially capable to attend to him. You only expressed that you don't want to, because it disgust you. Well hire help if you need to. But I think you should try not to be so selfish and insensitive.
Name: Lesa Age: 22 Radio Station: WBLS 107.5 FM New York, NY WOW! No one sat you down and enlightened you to the fact that you would be dealing with an incontinent 73 yr old man when you were 42, before you got married? Well even if they did, you probably would have done it anyway. It seems as though you married him for the wrong reasons (that money you really need) instead of for love and companionship. Remember for better or for worse while you are cleaning up the poo. At 73 the doctor's office should be his home away from home if he isn't healthy, so talk to his family if they don't hate you for trying to take advantage of him or get a doctor to come to the house or sedate him and take him to the doctor so they can help him stop messing up the house or even convince him to go to a nursing home so you can move on with your life. How you plan on getting his money (that you really need) when he is in the nursing home? Poop for thought (pun intended). Good luck!
Name: bklynmom Age: 39 Radio Station: WBLS 107.5 FM New York, NY If he's having trouble with his "bowls", maybe he should try "plates". Sorry, I couldn't resist that one. Seriously though, you sound like you're talking about an unloved runaway dog and not a husband that you've cared and loved for the past 9 years. Yikes! Did you ever love this man? You have zero compassion for him. Instead of complaining and allowing yourself to have feelings of being grossed out, you need to step to the plate (don't want to get the bowls involved again), and figure out other alternatives. This is what people in marriages do. If he won't go to the doctor, can you find a dr. that will make an urgent housecall? For all you know, he may need a simple procedure that will cure him of whatever is going on. And a dr coming to the house could explain that to both of you. Maybe THAT will inspire him to go to doctor instead of having a wife tripping out not helping him figure out his options. What about hiring a home health care worker to assist so that YOU are not doing things that gets in the way of romantic/intimate feelings (although sounds like you have zero). Interesting that you said, I have a nice place...not "we* have a nice place. You've been married NINE years, so it's not just your place. Dating other guys as a married woman with a husband who has health concerns that need to be addressed is not the answer. Talk this over with your husband, enlist the help of his family, get support from medical professionals, and perhaps consider whether you are really IN this marriage. I get the feeling you wouldn't want to divorce this man that you claim disgusts you because you see dollar signs and want to hold out until he dies. Wow...what a love story. Does that really make you feel good inside your soul?
Name: Kasey Age: 32 Radio Station: WBLS 107.5 FM New York, NY You should stay right where you are. That's what you get for marrying an elderly man TWICE your age? What did I say yesterday about compatibilty? None of this phased your golddiggin azz 10yrs ago? The only thing you were compatible with was his check book & life insurance policies. Get him some depends or serenity and deal with it! I would never get with a man more than 10yrs my senior. I don't think we are on the same level or have the same interests. I'm not dependant or need to use anyone as a sugardaddy. What part of him did you find sexy or irresistible that made you wanna get naked or even jump the broom? Eeeww! just gross. In sickness & health, well I tell you what I have no problem helping out, washing, feeding or wiping the man I'm with. I've even done some of these things recently for the man I'm not with(exhusband) he's outta the hospital & better now though. I wouldn't turn my back on somebody in need if they can't control their bodily functions. Leet thanx for yesterday. Arrance Step & Fetch to the fullest. Ron I don't drool or snore, nor do I have corns, calluses, bunyons or knuckle toes. Denise congrats!
Name: Ron Mack Age: 29 Radio Station: WBLS 107.5 FM New York, NY What's Good People--------- Woman your the worse. He didn't die fast enough for you to collect. Ha Ha Ha pops is stronger than you thought. So what your gonna do divorce him and get a lil of his S.S.I or wait it out and get that Cadi. You played with his emotions but your the one who getting played. I hope another P.Y.T come and ease his pain but you still have to live with the memorys of sleeping with a grandpa lol He is a real O.G......... Pray in Truth & Be Blessed......
Name: JS Age: 44 Radio Station: WBLS 107.5 FM New York, NY Sounds like you married for money, that being the case you already have some bad karma coming, so I would advise you to stay with him and take care of him as best you can, get some toys or a boyfriend on the side, I really don't think anybody would be mad at you for that. If you were a man they wouldn't mind you having some on the side and get a nurse and maybe even get a part time job to help pay for the nurse if necessary.
Name: Kasey Age: 32 Radio Station: WBLS 107.5 FM New York, NY Bkmom, that was so funny it made me lol. Good one. Ron I've NEVER seen your email posted here. I've put mine up several times,yet to get a response from you. So please don't come with lies. Ps why are you concerned with spelling now after all this time?? Come on bruh, knock it off!
Name: mayling Age: 29 Radio Station: WVAZ 102.7 FM Chicago, IL I've been with my husband for 10 years now and he is 26 years older than me and there is NOTHING that i wouldn't do for him, and there's nothing he wouldn't do for me either.I met him when I was 19 and he was 45. He has helped me with my disabled children & we have a three year old together.Long story short, you should have thought of ALL of that before you got in a relationship with him. It takes a lot day to day to be a woman and just because you're ready to go get some new d--- doesn't mean you just throw it all away. Stop making excuses and be real with yourself. you have to wake up and realize that one day you just might be in his shoes and the same thing will happen to you. Your new love might get sick of you and throw you away. P.S. GET A TOY
Name: Laura Age: 38 Radio Station: WVAZ 102.7 FM Chicago, IL Becareful who you fall in love with and marry. Illness can befall anyone at any age and we expect our spouse to be there for us. However, the decisions is less difficult when people of comparable ages are in such unions and have to make those decisions. When people marry for what the other has to offer in terms of finance they often live to regret it. They find themselves being able to afford this and that, but at the price of being sometimes lonely and unhappy. There is no way any man or woman that much older than me can hold my interest much less to see me intimate with them. The younger men could not do much for you back when you were 32 so why are you paying them any mind now. When your girlfriends were struggling, you were probably shopping. I am sure your were warned, but you were too busy enjoying free easy money. Focus on your task. When you were using the old man when he was 64 nothing prepared you for this. Somehow I do not feel sorry for you. GREED HAS A PRICE!
Name: Jack Age: 45 Radio Station: KRNB 105.7 FM Dallas, TX Chick, you knew what you were buying from jump! You went for the money, security and ease of a relationship with gramps. You are still in it for the money! Damn. You're gagging because you have to clean ass? But you sold your self for money - that is gagging.
Name: It's Me Age: 33 Radio Station: KRNB 105.7 FM Dallas, TX NOW YOU KNOW YOU'RE ABOUT TO GET BLASTED FROM THE PANEL, RIGHT? DID YOU THINK HE WAS GOING TO STAY 63 FOREVER? I MEAN COME ON NOW, THAT MAN WAS OLD WHEN YOU MARRIED HIM. MY GREAT GRANDMOTHER USE TO SAY. "Old men give you worms baby"!!! WHAT POSSESSED YOU TO MARRY THIS MAN IN THE FIRST PLACE IF YOU WEREN'T WILLING TO TAKE CARE OF HIM IN HIS TIME OF SICKNESS. NOW YOU WANNA PUT HIM IN A NURSING HOME; HOW SELFISH... GIRL GET A REALITY CHECK, YOU WANTED THIS MAN, NOW YOU HAVE HIM, TAKE CARE & STICK IT OUT WITH HIM... STAYED PRAYED UP & BE BLESSED!!!
Name: Kiera Age: 16 Radio Station: KRNB 105.7 FM Dallas, TX WOW! I KNOW IM ONLY 16 BUT I WAS TALKING TO MY MOM ABOUT THIS...THAT IS A REALLY BIG AGE DIFFERENCE....HE WAS 64 WHEN YOU MARRIED HIM AT 32...U WERE STILL VERY YOUNG AND IM VERY SURE YOU COULD OF STILL FOUNDD SOMEONE WHO COULD CARE FOR YOU. WHAT WAS YOUR REASONING FOR MARRYING THIS MAN IN THE FIRST PLACE? WERE YOU ALWAYS HAPPY WITH THIS. WELL YOU KNEW OF THE AGE DIFFERENCE AND YOU CAN COMPARE TAKING CARE OF OLD PPL TO TAKING CARE OF KIDS. YOU GOT YOURSELF INTO SOMETHING BIG NOW YOU HAVE TO FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU WANNA DO TO GET OUT OF IT!! WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK!
Name: Capbe07 Age: 52 Radio Station: WHUR 96.3 FM Washington DC Good Morning Family., and Happy 4th to All, To the writer, your husband can not help that he is sickly at this age, your vows were for better or worse. It can't be that bad since the money still has you there and not the love. Love is unconditional, and one day if you are "BLESSED" you will reach that age and I hope that you will never have the problems that you mentioned , but if so ., whoever cares for you I hope you will recieve compassion in the care you get??????
Name: Solaiel Age: 37 Radio Station: WMXD 92.3 FM Detroit, MI Morning Crew. To Mrs. Old Man. When you married your husband it was for richer and poorer (that is he and you respectively it seems), better or worse (those are times past and times now, apparently), in sickness and in health (him now, you now, his was probably starting to fail when you met 9 yrs. ago, hence the marriage to a much younger wife) and for the good times and bad. I don't even need the parenthesis for this one. Madame golddigger, you had better stay there and clean up the man's mess. You leave now you will have to pay in more ways than one. First, you will have mistreated another one of God's children. Granted, he seems to be a low-down child, after all, not being able to hold your bowels is a clear sign something is the matter in your body, and instead of doing the right thing and wearing a diaper, getting his health checked, etc. he is quite obvious in making your life miserable. Shows he had you made day number one and intends to make you pay. Just make very well certain the insurance notes are paid and the will states you are full beneficiary. Still, God doesn't look too well on kicking a wife or husband when they are down and you won't want to meet Him with that on your conscious. Second, you know about your morals clause in the marriage contract - right? Well, no matter who asks you out, how much your who-who itches, how much you don't want him to touch you, how much you gag at the very sight of him breathing and wish he'd stopped some times the night before, you cheat and it will be you who pays for it. There is no justify-ing for it after it's done - it's just-a-lie-ing. Oh The Lord will forgive you, believe me, but there will be consequences to your actions. M-goldie, you knew very well what you were getting when you accepted his proposal. Something tells me you knew he was a sickly old man. Or maybe something happened in the 9 yrs. that exxacerbated a problem already there that he knew about but didn't tell you. And for that misconception, he'll pay, but you won't know anything about it. Third, if he's going around, knowingly messing all over the house, take legal action. No one is in his right mind to do such a thing, and he needs medical attention. By force, legal if necessary. If he won't go to the doctor, get a doctor who comes out to the home. Most large cities have the Home Care Physicians and nurses. Their recommedations go a long way to forcing the person to get medical attention and being put into hospitals or nursing faciities. The problem with him remaining in a nursing home is you don't say you work, so after those first 100 days, medicare will send him home (if he has medicare) and you will be forced again to do the cleaning up. But maybe by then, his habits will be better and he will wear the diapers. (You still have to clean that, and it's not a bar-b-q.) Spend your time trying to get a home care doctor and nurse so you can get some diagnosis' and prognosis' and get business orders in order. Stop worrying about your tail end for now and worry about your livlihood, since you are not going to worry about your husband's ill health. Right now, there are two of you that don't care anything about him, but only one of you mentally and physically healthy to do something about it. You hopefully have a few more years before you have to worry about wearing diapers yourself. Do you think about the possibile that someone will be writing somewhere about being sick of smelling your mess - even if you do it in a diaper? You are young enough to get things done in a business-like fashion, take classes, get a bonafide job, unless his social security will be enough for you and stop being so triffling. Finally, too bad hubby's not the sexy-sexy-sexy fellow with the Cialis pills he used to be, but you had a few half-way decent years and you say the money is good. Your job went from being his eye-candy lover, to the clean-up lady. To do ANYTHING else would be WRONG. Period. You didn't mention kids, hope none came out of this marriage, because they might not meet with such a decent fate when dad expires - that is if he goes before you. Now I didn't say he was right or it's OK for him to behave in this disgusting way. He might be afraid of what's going to be said, but like I said, there are ways that as a wife, you can legally force him to be seen or to see a medical doctor, and from there, a licensed psychologist. It's not normal to wallow in your waste or feel that your spouse want's to clean it all the time just because you provide them shelter, clothes, etc. But he needs to think too - you might get to The Lord before him. Then who will clean up behind the hubby? As soon as the neighbors get to smelling the foul stench coming from the house, they'll have the police there, they'll haul his hiney out of there for all kinds of psych evals and tests - damn his fear or whatever other mental or emotional problems he has with seeing doctors. The two of you can guess where his next stop will be from there. They won't mind tying him down if they have to, because once again, they know that it's not normal and no one in their right mind wants to lie and wallow in crap. Emphasis on 'right mind'. Mrs. Old Man, I hope you haven't done anything wrong yet. Good luck.
Name: CK Age: 59 Radio Station: MAJIC 107.5 FM Atlanta, GA Dear writer, this really is a sad situation. I am sure there is a support group for geriatrics that can give advice and services that will help your situation. Especially, if he is unknowingly suffering with Alzheimer or dementia, there is much care needed. Does he have children or other relatives (sisters or brothers) that you can speak to him about the seriousness of his health? Unfortunately, when you choose to marry a much older man, you should have known there would be results of diminishing health. What�s a sexually active, younger woman to do? Clean, wipe, spray and whatever else is required to do to take care of your husband. Unless, he dies or is forcibly taken out of the house, you have to live with your decision. I feel for you, but sometimes the decisions we make are not always the best because in the end you are the one who suffers and looses. Everyone has a great weekend!
Name: Carol Age: 53 Radio Station: MAJIC 107.5 FM Atlanta, GA She should have remembered that say in Forest Grump. Run Forest Run except it should have said Run Hazel Run. There is just not way there were not signs that this was coming sooner then later. That's what she get for marrying that man for his money. She is probably already stepping outside the marriage and just wanted you guy to tell she that is what she should do so that the guilt would not be eating at her. I am 53 and know better then to get involved with a man that is older and have healty problems because if I marry him they then become mind. She is getting what she had coming.
Name: lola Age: 51 Radio Station: KHTE 96.5 FM Little Rock, AR to the letter writer, you married for better or worse so now you getting the worse, stop complaining and start seeking solutions, to you immediate problems, you know men don't like to go to the doctor and a nursing home, lady get real, the man is sick not crazy, nursing homes a large majority of them or understaffed, ran poorly, and the better ones or very expensive so taking that into consideration, check with the local department of human services they may have programs geared to senior needs, get someone to come in and help you, your letter did not say if you or working because that could be hard for both you and your husband, i know you young and want some loving but that should be the least of you concerns right now, ignore thoes men, you will just bring shame and humilation to yourself, because believe me what is done in the dark will get out, so think on that before you do it, some of us have husbands who or not as old as your husband and or not getting any loving, so stop being the victim and be the victor, don't be so quick to throw in the towel, the enemy is trying to destroy your marriage, take care of your husband, GOD WILL BLESS YOUR FAITHFULNESS, keep in pray, GOD LOVES YOU.
Name: RONALD MCDONALD,2nd post to leet. Age: 36 Radio Station: WRBO 103.5 Memphis, TN Eyez start wit chu LEET.eyez surely preciate youz cumin to me n a respeful manna,unlike sum ove dese bitta lo down bugdet,judmental hypacritical doon buggiez up hurr.Eyez like to say ma'am dat eyes like (luv) KASEY n u an all know dat.eyez not tryna hurt oh disrespect hur.EYEZ jus want hur to haf my time an to be treated wit luv and curr.Women be wantin a good man,but when an oppotunity(I don't thank eyez spelt dat right)cumz long yallz can't handal da pressha..wise dat ma'am,eyez confess,eyez even offa my email so she culd see wut eyez look like,and eyez a gud lookin man,eyez sho iz.blame it on my ego.and NO eyez not ego trippin..Eyez thank bout hur 7 dayz ove da week,wheather she responds or not.Eyez don't know why she's rude to sum1 who wants 2 be good to hurr ma'am.datz how da satan wurks.he block blessin cuz he don't wanna see no won happy.dats why all hiz demonic friendz up hurr be spittin fiyah at me witch feelz like ICY hot nd cold patchez,cuz eyez gotta shield on me an it don't hurt.dey nag at KASEY talkin bout igno him,I AInT SCURRED.she hurt my feelingz yez she did,but eyez not gon cry.no ma'am eyez not gon cry...
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Name: cwalk Age: 42 Radio Station: WRBO 103.5 Memphis, TN you are a skank! you knew the man was older than you and chances are he would become ill. you just thought he die before you had to do all this. its your duty skanky. if you cant stomach it then hire a maid. im 42 also and if you had married for love and not money tramp you would not be writing this letter. you dont have a very nice place, he has a very nice place. So you are just earning your keep. This is funny and should be a lesson to all the gold diggers who read it(everything that is old dont glitter)ha ha! You probably are lonely and need a companion, well you are married buy a dog. at least let the man keep the little dignty he might have left and if you must have somebody can you not be discreet? You probably already have someone and just ready to go full bloom with it,,,oh well. what if this was your as on the other foot? do you think he would be able to stomach your trifling as? i cant!
Name: Arrance Age: 41 Radio Station: WRBO 103.5 Memphis, TN Lady you've waisted a good portion of your life. @ Ronald Mac, do you have to put on black-face and tap dance everyday? You are an idiot and a disgrace to the race, regardless your social status.
Name: Frances Age: 44 Radio Station: WVKL 95.7 FM Norfolk, VA Do some of these people write these letters just to see if they can get them on the air? The only suggestion I have for this person is to find a English-101 class so that her written communications can be read and understood.
Name: Keith Age: 41 Radio Station: WVKL 95.7 FM Norfolk, VA I have sympathy for the letter writer. She knew exactly what she was getting herself into. She found a "sugar daddy" thought he wouldn't be around much longer and she would be financially secured. However, it "backfired" on her. She's getting what she deserves. Why didn't she find a man closer to her age,in the beginning? She made her own bed now lay in it
Name: Keith Age: 41 Radio Station: WVKL 95.7 FM Norfolk, VA I have no sympathy for the letter writer. She knew exactly what she was getting herself into. She found a "sugar daddy" thought he wouldn't be around much longer and she would be financially secured. However, it "backfired" on her. She's getting what she deserves. Why didn't she find a man closer to her age,in the beginning? She made her own bed now lay in it.
Name: VOLTAIRE Age: 70 Radio Station: WAMO 106.7 FM Pittsburgh, PA TGIF SHMS Crew, Family,Friends and a happy Fourth of July to everyone that out there. To the lady LIVING with the Old Man what a sad, sad state of affairs for you to endure with this incontinent, stubborn and sickly senior citizen. Your situation requires some fore thought and some real action quickly. I'm not a medical doctor, nor I have I ever been in the medical field,but I feel you need help in the form of a nurse of some kind that might visit your residence and then advise your husband to get help. A nursing home is your best bet. There has to some social organizations equipped to handle this problem. Maybe an AARP office in your area has some ideas to handle your dilemma. Also,I think the Social Security office has the information through the Office of the Aging that may help you. He needs some 24/7 professional care that you need to turn over to people trained to handle this type of quandary. I think the difficulty may be his inability to cooperate and communicate properly with officials. Does he have children or other relatives that love him and maybe able to help to solve this not so pleasant circumstance? That might be worth a shot. But be aware that the cost of his care may outstrip his financial abilities so that may take that income away from your household. So you may want to get his insurances in place for his eventual payment of his care. Your social life will take care of itself but for now look into the immediate resolution of this very very serious health related issue. Constant exposure to this type of health trouble could have serious ramifications on you, being constantly exposed to the bacteria created by his constant expelling waste and it's by-products in your home around you and anyone else that might visit you. The stench must be unbearable. Please get some help by hook or crook, this is too grave a situation to let go any further. I applaud you for sticking by this man for so long with this situation but enough is enough. I feel your compassion but you need relief before you get sick from the residual of his illness. There may be people on this site that have the same experience or work in the nursing care area that might offer more pointed advice and direct you to some institution that can put an end to your medical nightmare. In the meantime try to keep yourself healthy by avoiding the ingesting of the things expelled by the condition from this man. Wear masks, use a lot of rubber gloves, replacing each of them often. I wish you well, my dear. Family please help....VOLTAIRE
Name: VOLTAIRE part two Age: 70 Radio Station: WAMO 106.7 FM Pittsburgh, PA VOLTAIRE 2ND RESPONSE - Wow you guys put this lady on major BLAST. I was blown away by your comments so far. But I guess I didn't see her original motive and that's my bad. Whew, do I stand corrected big time, but I think she needs some kind relief, ugh. VOLTAIRE
Name: Ruby Age: 49 Radio Station: WMIB 103.5 FM Miami, FL Why don't you just use some of the money in the checking account for a private aide? I am sure he has some, otherwise, since you appear to be so selfish, I am sure you wouldn't have married him.
Name: MizzStoud Age: 24 Radio Station: WZHT 105.7 FM Montgomery, AL I am just in awe I do not know what to say. Ugh!!! You are a better one than me is all I can say. I thought dating someone 12 years older than me was a stretch it only lasted a couple of weeks. Ima just pray for you.
Name: MISS DENNIS Age: 34 Radio Station: WUBT 101.1 FM Nashville, TN It appears you wanted someone to take care of you and now you want something more, companionship. Funny how our bad choices always come back and bite us in the butt. Remember for better or for worse. You were and still in it for the money and its sad. This is the reason men dont trust women and always calls us golddiggers. I say you made your bed now lie in it. He is your husband; therefore you need to love and support him. He is taking care of you now and has since you been together now it's time for you to take care of him. You said it best I knew he was older. Get over it!
Name: India Age: 25 Radio Station: WUBT 101.1 FM Nashville, TN oh...my...goodness. WOW. Truth be told, I was having trouble stomaching that letter. I can only imagine how disgusting that is. At the same time, were you not aware that when you marry somebody, you should plan to be with them forever? How did you not see this coming? I could be wrong, but it sounds like you were hoping he would croak so you could get in his wallet. Ever heard the saying, "WHAT GOES AROUND, COMES AROUND?" Well, you selfishness and greedy intent has come back around and you only have yourself to blame for playing with fire and people's emotions. You said, help? What? You trying to get Steve in on your little plot to get rich? You want him to help you scheme? Lady, there is only one way out now and I'll bet my bottom dollar Steve don't want nothing to do with that. lol. You can't do anything now, but get some assistance around the house. Like a care nurse or something. Let them scrub those stains since they get paid for it. LOL. That's what you get for being trifflin. Think before you act next time.
Name: What were you thinkin' Age: 41 Radio Station: WPHR 106.9 FM Syracuse, NY You knew the age difference before you got married. The vows were to LOVE, HONOR, and Cherish... in sickness and in health... until death do you part. Sounds like your husband is on his way out...Be the loving wife you claimed to be. Hopefully noone will discard your azz when you reach your twightlight years. Perhaps you too, will have some incontinence, or flatulence and your man decides this is not what he signed up for! Make an appointment with the doctor and take him. Use that money to get a nurse. So he poops his pants, you didn't says he was noncommunicative... talk to him lovingly. I'm sure this is no picnic for him either! Do right by your husband.. you didn't mention any abuse. Clearly there is a medical reason for this. Anyone of us can be stricken by an illness at any time. Good luck!
Name: Ebony Age: 47 Radio Station: KNEK 104.7 FM Lafayette, LA YOU SHOULD HAVE MARRIED A YOUNGER MAN. NO ONE WANTS TO THINK ABOUT THE FUTURE WHEN THEY'RE IN SO CALLED LOVE. IT IS VERY SELFISH AND DISHEARTENING. You just want us to give you the ok that it is ok to leave your husband. Well too bad!!! You're stuck with him for life; in SICKENESS and in health; for richer or for poorer. Get over yourself and love your man. This is not grounds for divorce. Nobody says marriage is easy. EBONY
Name: TAKE A CHANCE Age: 39 Radio Station: WACR 103.9 FM Columbus, MS Type your Comment Here LADY,MS.SHIRLEY,UNCLE.STEVE&NEPHEW.TOMMY IS GOING TO HAVE A FIELD DAY ON YOU.I DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU WERE THINKING.WHEN YOU MARRIED THIS ELDERLY MAN DIDN'T THE PASTOR SAID FOR BETTER OR WORSE OR DID YOU WERE THINKING OF BENEFITS OR WHAT THIS SUGAR DADDY CAN PROVIDE.9 YEARS AGO YOU DIDN'T THINK ABOUT HIS HEALTH I'M SORRY YOU MADE THIS BAD.THINK ABOUT IT WHAT IF YOU HEALTH SUDDENLY FAILED YOU BEFORE HIS ."GO AHEAD SISTER DEAL WITH THIS ONE. PEACE"
Name: WISE4MYYRS. Age: 31 Radio Station: WZLD 106.3 FM Laurel, MS DEAR OLD MAN,...YOU SAID A MOUTHFUL WHEN YOU SAID YOU KNEW OF YOUR AGE DIFFERENCE WHEN YOU CHOSE TO MARRY HIM.THAT BEING SAID YOU HAD TO KNOW THAT THIS MAN WAS ALREADY 30 YEARS YOUR SENIOR AND WOULD ONLY GET "OLDER".DID YOU THINK THAT THERE WOULD BE NO "FOR WORSE"ON DOWN THE ROAD?YOU MARRIED FOR THR WRONG REASONS.$$ CAN'T BUY U LOVE.TAKE A GOOD LOOK AT YOUR MARRIAGE AND YOUR MAN IF THA BAD OUTWEIGHS THE GOOD...TAKE UP THE RUGS,GET LINOLEUM,AND HIRE A CERTIFIED NURSE AIDE.IF YOU CAN'T AFFORD ONE ....PRAY FOR STRENGHT,EAT ALOT SUNFLOWERSEEDS (DA SALT WILL SETTLE YOUR STOMACH)AND BUY ALOT OF LATEX GLOVES.I'M SURE IF HE COULD HELP HIMSELF HE WOULD.I'M SURE THE SITUATION HAS TAKEN A TOLL ON HIS PRIDE,MANHOOD,AND EGO.!!!!THINK!!!!HE IZZZ AMAN YA KNOW????UR BEING REAL SELFISH.TRY TO PUT YOURSELF IN HIS PLACE.IF THE SHOE WERE ON THE OTHER FOOT DO YOU THINK HE'D BE COMPLAINING AND ADVERTISING HIMSELF ON E-HARMONY.?PRAY FOR GUIDANCE AND SEE WHAT COUNSEL THE BIBLE APPLIES FOR YOUR SITUATION.DON'T BE HASTY...THIMK ABOUT HOW YOU GOT HIM,THE GOOD TIMES YOU TWO HAVE HAD AND MOST OF ALL YOUR MARRIAGE VOWS.WOMEN ARE ALWAYS TALKING ABOUT HOW MEN CAN'T WAIT TIL THEIR SPOUSE IS COLD B4 THEY START DATING AGAIN;WELL YOUR HUSBAND ISN'T EVEN ON HIS LAST LEG AND YOU READY TO TAKE APPLICATIONS!!SHAME SHAME SHAME.N WE WONDER Y MEN WON'T TRUST.....................................................................