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Dating Tips With Bela Gandhi: Dating Over 50

Dating style, 4 rules to live by.

Dating Over 50! This is a good topic. We’re back with Dating Tips with Bela Gandhi founder of Smart Dating Academy.

Wondering about love after 50? Confused about dating sites? Need help setting up an online dating profile? Bela Gandhi has tips for all of this and more!

Watch more Dating Tips with Bela Gandhi on SteveHarvey.com. Let me know what you think. Better yet, drop your dating and relationship questions for Bela in the comments.



Bela Gandhi is a dating and relationship expert, founder of Smart Dating Academy and a weekly media correspondent. She is the dating expert on the Steve Harvey Show, Relationship Insider for Match.com, a regular contributor to the TODAY Show and Good Morning America, and appears frequently on ABC, NBC, Fox, CNN, and more.

To learn more about Bela and how to get your dating on, visit SmartDatingAcademy.com.



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  1. Love this! I’m gonna do it, and make y’all proud, Bela and Steve.

    1. WE LOVE THIS SO MUCH! Best of luck to you!! Love, Bela

  2. Men look at me and say I just want sex and that’s it and I ask them and it’s no relationship just sex

    1. Keep moving upwards and onwards. Your filter is good – and I’m glad that you’re asking the question before you get physically involved with them. Keep up the good work, and we are always here for you. Love, Bela

  3. I am ready to date a real man tired of meeting these men that looks like duck when they open there mouth to talk they Quacks like a ducks.. I’m trying not to throw in the towel but its getting close. I haven’t had a date and relationship in 14yrs when I think he’s the right one he does something wrong everytime..

    1. What’s important for you is to reframe and reset to “psychotic optimism.” Even though it seems like a dark patch in the tunnel, know that love will come to you. Thank goodness you’re not accepting the ‘quacking ducks’ – look for men that are High GHQ (Good Husband Qualities) – qualities that you value and make you happy. Love, Bela

  4. Iam at 49 now

  5. I would love to meet someone who will understand me and love me for what I am, I am single with no kids. I love to travel, drink my wine, love the sun The beaches. Love to cook I am Spanish. I am 65 yrs old but don’t look it. I would to meet that right person, would like to be married and live in warm climate weather.

    1. Use every tool available including meeting men in real life, getting set up and online dating to find the love of your life. The process takes the 3Ps – patience, positivity and perseverance. I wish you all the best finding the man who will drink wine at sunset with you! Love, Bela

  6. Please send me more tips on dating I am 58 years young am scared of dating again have been separated for over 10years and has never been in another relationship

    1. Hi! Don’t be scared of dating again – it’s the only way to find love and it’s a process (just like you need to go on job interviews to find a job). YOU CAN DO THIS! Check our website at http://www.smartdatingacademy.com for more tips, and sending love and light to you. Love, Bela

  7. Hi there,, is it really possible that it could happen to get a date again for a woman in her 50’s?just asking,,Thanks and May God Bless Us All!! 🤗😘

    1. YES it is so possible! We see amazing love stories all the time at Smart Dating Academy for singles over 50. You’ve got this and God Bless You too! Love, Bela

  8. Hello my name is Kelly Camp I’m 57and I’ve been single for about 12years now and I’m tired of being by myself. I live in Columbia Missouri now I’m from Los Angeles California and I have been in Columbia for 12 years, I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong but I can’t attract men like I used to is it that I’m 57yrs old I really miss being with someone besides my grown kids can you help me find a man I’m retired also hopefully that won’t matter, Help Me Please

    1. Hi Kelly, you can absolutely find someone to spend the hopefully next 50 years of your life with! Use real life, online dating, and good set ups from your network to find a great man. They are everywhere, including Columbia and LA! Wishing you the best of luck – and come visit Smart Dating Academy in Chicago sometime! Love, Bela

  9. Yes,,, Im single love to find a partner, help me pleae.

    1. Sure! Read the comments on this page – love is totally possible for you if you start to change things up and do things that rev up the dating engine. Love, Bela

  10. The video was very helpful to me. I am 55 and single after a 36 year marriage. I really don’t know how to date since I got married at age 19. I have confidence after watching the video. It gave me great tips and ideas. Thanks!

    1. Thank you so much – we want to help as many people as possible with this information – and remember that 45% of US adults are single! You can DO this – and I wish you all the love in the world with a great partner. Love, Bela

  11. Great article.

  12. I’m 63 year young, I’m so tired of dating old fools who think they are a player. Steve can you help me find a decent man, who ready to settle down with one lady.

    1. You can definitely do this – and you’re right that you’re 63 years young. You can find a more than decent man by changing up the kinds of men you’re meeting by using technology the right way, and meeting good men in real life. Love, Bela

  13. Love the inspiration. This is such a real need for great people to find happiness.

    1. Thank YOU for the great comment – we are here to inspire, and appreciate the positive feedback. Love, Bela

  14. Maybe if we looked like her, but she should walk a mile in my shoes before she talks, men only want sex

    1. Hi, I’ve seen my share of men that are good, and not good – we all have. Look around the world – people of all ages, colors, shapes and sizes can find love, and you can too! Wishing you love and nothing but good men. Love, Bela

  15. Hello
    Is it possible to correspond with the people who are leaving comments? You never know where your connecting is.

    I am looking for a friendship which can lead to something special forever.

    Where to meet men?

    1. Meet them by using online dating, and everywhere in your real life. Make sure you are open and approachable in your real life too – including while shopping, on trains, buses, everywhere! Good men are all around us, usually…we just need to believe it to start seeing them!!

  16. How about dating over SIXTY! I can count on one hand the dates I have had in the last 10 years. I am active, work out several times per week, but the problem is, WHERE are the single old(er) men????

    1. So great that you work out so much – exercise keeps us agile, joyful, and happy at all ages. Single older men are all around us – try online dating because you can filter people on ages here (including 60+). Love, Bela

  17. Hello
    I’m 55 and feel really good about it, however I haven’t met the right guy that turns me on. The older men are trying to relive their 20’s lol. I’m not sure where to go to meet anyone. Help

    1. Keep trying – there are players out there for sure, but there are other great guys too. So glad that you feel good about being 55 – you’ve got a great attitude and will hopefully find someone sooner than later! Love, Bela

  18. The video clip had some great tips. Thanks

    1. THANK YOU! So happy you liked the tips. Love, Bela

  19. I have not dated since 2013, had a very bad experience and I have close myself out. I am currently working three job’s and have no life. I just turn 60 and was look at the beach and asking myself why not, Steve I would like to met someone but not just anyone, I love the Lord and I am very active in church.

    1. Keep your eyes open even while you’re at work because you never know who might come your way. Church is also a great place to meet men, as well as online dating (which sounds like it could be good for you as you’re so busy with three jobs). Love, Bela

  20. I am turning 65 in July. I want intimacy, romance and partnership. Guys older don’t do romance it seems. Been single 17 years. I give up.

    1. Happy early birthday and do NOT give up! Love can come to everyone who wants it but it always starts with a belief that he is out there. I’ve helped plenty of 65 year olds find love – and wish you the BEST of luck. Love, Bela

  21. Hi Bela, Hi Steve I really like your advice,, Steve I don’t know how I’m gonna survive without your show. I need your help in finding the right man to date, I have been single for the past seven years. I am in my 50’s, a retired nurse. People said that I am truthful, sincere, spontaneous and I have great sense of humor. I would like to give another man an opportunity to meet a beautiful, loving, caring woman. Please help me

    1. We love that you love the show, and know that you’re going to find love. Use the tools of online dating and real life to your advantage – and a good man will definitely come to you. Wishing you love and happiness! Love, Bela

  22. Hello, am looking for a responsible woman who I can share my life with a woman who I can love and live a happy life

    1. There are plenty of amazing, responsible women that are looking for wonderful men (just read this page and you can see so many of them)! All the best to you – Love, Bela

  23. I’m looking man of God
    I’m window of 10year because I was taking care my kids
    My age is June 30 1980

    1. So sorry that you lost your husband at such a young age. There are many men of God out there – use all 3 roads to find him (online, real life and set ups). You’ve been through tough times, and we know you can do this too. Love, Bela

  24. I like this program because is good for sharing experiences.

  25. Great tips and really gives me a positive outlook. Definitely going to implement your suggestions.

    1. Thank you so much, and keep in touch about how it goes! We are rooting for you! Love, Bela

  26. I am 70 and look like 50. Still very active. A great companion would be a good addition to this stage of my life.

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