Dating Red Flags!
When red flags present themselves, it's only a matter of time before you see more of this negative behavior.
By Bela Gandhi, Smart Dating Academy, Founder & President
When I talk to people about their failed or failing relationships, I ask, “Were there any
red flags at the beginning?” The answer is almost always yes. When red flags present
themselves, it’s only a matter of time before you see more of this negative behavior. If
you ignore the five red flags below, then you’ll probably regret it later:
If someone calls you maybe once a week or month to go out, and you’ve been dating for
months, then this signals that they are not looking to deepen things with you. A good
relationship trajectory should be increasing time together over the course of
weeks/months. If the relationship plateaus or peters out, then you know that it isn’t a
good long-term bet for love.
2) Late Night Texting/Calling Only
If someone only texts or calls after 10 p.m., asking you to come over and “hang out”
—this is a sign that you’re just a bed warmer. A man that wants to have a relationship
with you will spend more time with you — during the day, dinner, and on the weekends.
If you’re the late night girl, pay attention, and move on if this isn’t what you want.
3) Abnormally Guarding Their Phone
If someone takes their phone with them to the bathroom after months of dating and sleeps
with it in their pocket, it might mean that they’re dating others as well. If someone is too
protective of their phone, it is most likely because there is something to hide.
If you catch your partner lying, it is a red flag. Lies are like cockroaches — when you
discover one, there are usually 100 more hidden under a rock.
5) Rolling Their Eyes At You
If someone demeans you, belittles you in public, or rolls their eyes at you — it means that
they view you with contempt and hostility. If this happens, then this is definitely a red
flag. They aren’t worth your attention or time.
There are many red flags to be aware of, and the most important thing you can do is to
trust your gut. If your intuition says something is wrong, it most likely is. At that point,
you should either address the problem or consider walking away if you don’t like the