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Dating Red Flags!

When red flags present themselves, it's only a matter of time before you see more of this negative behavior.

By Bela Gandhi, Smart Dating Academy, Founder & President

When I talk to people about their failed or failing relationships, I ask, “Were there any
red flags at the beginning?” The answer is almost always yes. When red flags present
themselves, it’s only a matter of time before you see more of this negative behavior. If
you ignore the five red flags below, then you’ll probably regret it later:

1) Plateauing

If someone calls you maybe once a week or month to go out, and you’ve been dating for
months, then this signals that they are not looking to deepen things with you. A good
relationship trajectory should be increasing time together over the course of
weeks/months. If the relationship plateaus or peters out, then you know that it isn’t a
good long-term bet for love.

2) Late Night Texting/Calling Only

If someone only texts or calls after 10 p.m., asking you to come over and “hang out”
—this is a sign that you’re just a bed warmer. A man that wants to have a relationship
with you will spend more time with you — during the day, dinner, and on the weekends.
If you’re the late night girl, pay attention, and move on if this isn’t what you want.

3) Abnormally Guarding Their Phone

If someone takes their phone with them to the bathroom after months of dating and sleeps
with it in their pocket, it might mean that they’re dating others as well. If someone is too
protective of their phone, it is most likely because there is something to hide.

4) Lying

If you catch your partner lying, it is a red flag. Lies are like cockroaches — when you
discover one, there are usually 100 more hidden under a rock.

5) Rolling Their Eyes At You

If someone demeans you, belittles you in public, or rolls their eyes at you — it means that
they view you with contempt and hostility. If this happens, then this is definitely a red
flag. They aren’t worth your attention or time.

There are many red flags to be aware of, and the most important thing you can do is to
trust your gut. If your intuition says something is wrong, it most likely is. At that point,
you should either address the problem or consider walking away if you don’t like the

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  1. This is so true. We ladies should have standard that are high. Just because the guys appearance look good. He sometimes can used you as well. If you are going out with a guys whose appearance attracted you, I think something is wrong. If a lady have high standards and you like this guys whose appearance attracted you. If he doesn’t meet your standard and what you want out of a relationship. Don’t lower your standard for him or anyone just to fit them in. If they can’t reach it , don’t date him or anyone. If you see reg flags in your relationship and you ignoring them just for him. At the end of the day, you are going to feel the pain not him. Person who have bad behavior (disrespectful), testing your boundaries, don’t talk through issues, something in your gut feeling is wrong and they dismiss and deny you. These are all red flags.It’s essential to get to know yourself in every possible way before you move into a committed relationship. Often, individuals go in search of a relationship without this essential knowledge. A red flag is a good intuitive image to help you process what you’re really feeling. At the end of a difficult relationship, people often say, He (or she) told me who he (or she) was at the very beginning, but I just didn’t listen.

    1. Great insights – sounds like you’re aware of red flags and are in a good place to find love! Love, Bela

  2. Thank you????

  3. I don’t know what I am doing honey can y’all just help me get a god loving man I’m 44 years of age and it seems that every time I date someone he will just go ghost on me or he will do something out of the wat

    1. Ghosting unfortunately happens to most people. Could it be that you’re picking men that have red flags? Or is something strange happening on the dates? Sounds like you’re confused by what’s happening. Maybe you can ask people around you that you trust / are honest if they have any feedback for you about why you’re not meeting the right people. Could be a combination of things? I hope this helps! Love, Bela

  4. Steve Harvey, my co- worker said YOU are probably the only one to help me find a good man. I said I’ve emailed several times and no response. What does a lady have to do???

  5. Hi Sonia if you can take advise that Steve has given or to buy his book Act like a lady think like a man and watch his dating shows all of them they are filled with great tips which will really help you to keep a good man.

  6. Awesome Nuggets

  7. If a man go ghost on you then it was not for you. You go ghost and move the hell on next.

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